Musings Friday Follies!
May 22nd, 2009 by BohemianMoon
I DO BELIEVE THAT THERE WAS A EARLY REQUEST FOR FRIDAY FOLLIES? Here Ya Go!
Ya gotta rant about your boss? Your spouse? Your family or friends? Or maybe you just want to bitch about the world at large? Vent here!
Ya gotta problem? A burden shared is half a burden!
Ya gotta a couple of giggles to share? Laughter is the best medicine!
TGIF is here and so are Musings Friday Follies!
Let it out on any subject and clean the slate for the wonderful weekend ahead!
(No subject is taboo if presented with decorum, except of course, the Gosselin kids and the “C” word. However, now that we have the word “Twaffle”, the “C” word doesn’t matter so much any longer now does it? 
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OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO Thanks Moon! The picture is perfect too. The big foot up the ass award goes to the DMV. I have been there THREE times this week. Never once have I had the oppertunity to actually PARK the car and do my business. NOT ONE open spot. Legal or otherwise. Yes, today I was so pissed I considred it. Doing it online isn’t an option when combined with an addy change. Eff off NVDMV!
I am so tired of being broke. I am tired of my daughter’s friends moms constantly asking us to do things this summer that cost more than my car payment per week.
I am also tired of my son’s school not giving us a straight answer about if he qualified for Extended School year for services. I think they left it off his IEP this year and don’t want to fess up to it. Its a month of services he could use and now we have to find something to subsitute for the therapy he won’t recieve.
On another note, I’m happy its an extended weekend and I get a 3 day break from my co-workers.
Ok, I have to bitch about my co-worker. Remember the one who dresses beyond inappropriately for teaching first graders? Well…she’s done it again! At the end of every school year, our students perform at a PTA meeting and we do a 50s sock hop theme. The girls wear poodle skirts and boys do the white t-shirt rolled-up jeans look. So cute. The teachers also dress up and it is fun for all. This morning, my co-worker showed up in basically a “naughty policewoman” costume! It wasn’t my day to work, but I went up to the school to see the morning performance and my eyes bugged out of my head when I saw her. Very, very tight police woman shirt unbuttoned way down with a tank top underneath, “painted on” jeans, and knee high, high heel “fuck me” boots. NO SHIT!!! I looked at a couple of other teachers and they nodded knowingly and asked how that is 50s themed. Her boys did a dance to “Jailhouse Rock” so she was the police woman. One of my friends did comment that “there were call girls in the 50s, too, you know.” Since is was my ‘off’ day, I left immediately afterward, so I don’t know what the fall-out was, because I know my principal probably had a coronary when she saw her. I do know that she changed her clothes, though I don’t know if it was voluntary or forced by admin. However, tonight at the PTA meeting, she was back in her role-playing costume. I did overhear some parents making comments. I snapped a couple of pictures and showed them to my hubby when I got home. He said that if he were the parent of a kid at the school, he would have been in the office complaining. I have no doubt there were complaints and I have no doubt my principal is fuming. I work tomorrow, so I can’t wait to hear what went down. Seriously, this is no ‘fresh out of school’ young and stupid teacher. She is FORTY, has a 10 year old who attends our school, and she is a GRANDMOTHER for crying out loud!! I so wish I could post a pic of her. You all would die! I don’t know why I continue to be surprised by this woman. ARG!!!
(Ok..enough rambling…)
I live across the street from a beautiful park that overlooks the water. However, I get pissed when me and hubs clean the yard and find “doggie bags” inside our fence (and not the good ones either). We live catty corner to 2 main streets leading to the park so it can be anyone doing this. There are garbage cans all over the park and in front of our driveway! Yet some people feel the need to surreptitiously drop their dog shit into the hostas in our yard. Fornuately I have not seen the jerk off doing this but I will catch him/her one day. I will take that bag of shit and follow the perp back home. Then I will pitch that kaka right at their front door like I was playing the major leagues. How do ya like them apples?
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OKay.. I would like to put my foot up the ass of whoever went around our culd-de-sac breaking in to cars.. seriously, get a life, get a job!! Thank you for stealing my neighbors wedding ring, my neighbors little girl’s softballs, and my son’s guitar and back pack which has had chemistry curriculum in it! Thanks a-hole/s!!!
KAT…….Say Whaaaaaaaaaaaaaa! Aw, come on. Just one little peek!
Thank you Moon but I went to bed anyway.
I have many health issues. I have learned to deal with them over the past 10 years. I have adapted. Diabetes 2, Chronic fatigue syndrome, an inner ear problem called Meneire`s disease, and just recently sciatica. I have had a couple scares and surgeries but all and all I have been just truckin on. So no need for any pity party on my part.
Two months ago, I got a pimple on my face near my eye. Well it wasnt a pimple. I started joking that it was my Witchy Wart. It started to bug me so I made an appointment to have to removed. So the Derm. removes and it and I showed her a couple other things. She said they were just like the wart but presented differently and if they did not hurt, we would leave them alone.
I was happy and went along my merry way. I get a call two weeks later. Biopsy results on the wart show it is a pre-cancerous lesion.
Talk about getting knocked over with a feather!
I need to come in to have them (..the girl said them!) biopsied and frozen .
I started to freak a little. The wart was only two months old but the other two things, I have had them for years! They have been marinating too long on my body.
So today at 8:30am I go in to have the work done. One of these warts/bumps/lesions is really deeply rooted in my upper arm. I KNOW that one is going to hurt like a bitch!
So I am a little freaked. I know it is easily treatable (if it is cancer) and everyone has told me it is no big deal, but it is a big deal to me. I know the prefix PRE was in the word but the word Cancer was in there too.
I have ignored this for 3 weeks now going about my merry way. The last week I have been a internal basket case. I think that is why I stayed to read the three ring circus that is KON. Kept my mind off of it.
Okay, I have rambled enough. I just needed to let that out. You do not really know me but give me a little thought today that everything will be a-okay.
So I’m temping as an Admin for this job ( the recruiting firm that sent me advised me not to apply for the permanent position as it is not challenging enough), and they are in need of help, but:
I have access to none of their systems so I can’t help. I spent 25 hours of my life this week sitting and staring at a wall!!! I did everyone on the floors filing because I bored out of my f-ing skull.
Super easy money, but I am soooooooooooooooooooooo bored.
I should hear next week if I get a second interview at law firm. Please, please, please,please. At least that will be challenging.
We have a washer/dryer in the home ec room. It is very handy and well, frankly, overused. (hey, stuff happens, literally) I believe it has become un-leveled and shakes and squeals horribly. We were in the home ec room for jobs the other day while the teacher was running a load through. After a few of the staff hemmed and hawed over it (raise lid, look in ) I went over and a graceful fluid motion jumped up and sat on it. Problem solved for the class. I made a mental note to turn in a maintenance slip to get it leveled (but I have so far forgotten) As I was sitting there I wondered how much trouble I’d be in if a nun walked by. They are death over anyone sitting on the furniture (desks, counter tops, window ledges). Would I get a dispensation since my butt was actually doing some good for the world?
During recess I walked by the home ec room and saw J with B fiddling with the washer as it was gyrating and squealing away. B is a rather large individual on the spectrum with a healthy dose of OCD. Doors and lids must be shut! Keep this in mind, it slipped mine until the worst possible moment. J is a very nice co worker. She was trying to get B’s pants cleaned and spun and then into the dryer before he had to get on the bus for home. Since I had some time I obliged by sitting on the washer yet again. Perhaps all the nuns would be at lunch? One could hope. I sit, we chit chat, the clothes get spun enough and go in the dryer. J decides that perhpas this is an automatically leveling washer and proceeds to manhandle it (she’s very strong) pulling it out, rocking it forward. And we hear something clink. Crap! “You broke it!” Yikes, no, just a cup or something fell back there. I hold the washer tilted out while J reaches between the washer and dryer to get the cup (she’s tall too). Okay, only then I see on my side two bottles of hand soap that have fallen back there and will surely either be crushed or un level the washer. J holds the washer this time and I try to reach the soap. Only, not so easy since there is a huge sink right next to the washer. Ugh. I end up going over the sink and slither back behind the washer, upside down with my legs flailing about topside. B finds this hysterical. That’s when I remembered his penchant for order. Ugh. As I’m groping for the soap I’m wonder just how strong J is. Could she counter his pushing the washer back? He is a seriously big kid and can be very determined. Suddenly I’m not so afraid of being caught by a nun. I grab the soap, one bottle , two bottles……geez people….and hoist my cookies out of there.
B is still chuckling. I relayed my fears to J. She assured me that she would have thrown herself in front of B. Good to know.
Jennifer- Is it too late to reopen the IEP? During the last IEP meeting was ESY discussed and approved but they just left it out? Can you prove it? Did he have ESY in the past? Can the program that he would have attended for ESY do anything? I know they shortened the response time (for the districts)in PA (don’t know where you live) but I hate it when they can literally stall until the school year is over and then it’s a moot point.
TGIF and I have the day off!
#2 Jennifer A–start wrrting letters to the child services office/special ed office and copy a whole pile of people–the school principal the superintendent to ask about ESY. The squeeky wheel is the way to go to get what you want in that area. The more people who know means you’ll get an answer faster, it might not be the answer you want but put it down and hopefully you’ll know soon.
I had a rant against a neighbor who just lets their dog out and then tries to blame their kids. The dog came flying into my backyard where I had the little ones on the swings and she never came after him. After 10 minutes of me chasing the damn dog around with a rolled up magazine he pooped on my other neighbor’s yard. I called to her what happened and waited for her to come out and speak with me but nothing.
I called the animal rescue league and reported her to the cops she claimed she went right after the dog but had to eat it when the cops gave her a detailed account of the dog’s actions. This was the third call in 2 years and was told another call means the dog might be taken away–this family has no fence or leash for the thing they just let him out to poop wherever. I think I should start tossing my babies poopy diapers over there don’t you???????????????
I have never posted a rant before…hope it is worthy!
I have been struggling with an allergic reaction & hives since early Sunday. Massive doses of prednisone, multiple overlapping antihistimines. I showed my hubby a patch of hives on my hip yesterday (an 8 inch raised welt, smaller clusters), and he looked at me and said, “gee, do you think you do have hives?”
WTF have I been taking all the blasted meds for all week? I just felt like inducing my own crappy mood swing?
Would have loved to have put the foot up his arse. (or I should have put mine with hives up there, so maybe he would get itchy, too!)
Ok, my complaint is this:
I am soon to be 41 and I think I may be “pre-menopausal”! Now don’t get me wrong – I cannot wait to no longer have a period, but I can do without the NIGHT SWEATS!! I keep the a/c at 68 every night (yes, it is FREEZING in the morning – lol) and still wake up oh, about every 2 hours SWEATING like a whore! WTF? I try sleeping with just a sheet (poor hubs has 3 blankets piled on top of him) and still am not sleeping well! Hubby advised to take some Benadryl before bed to help me sleep – even THAT did not work!! I just want to get a good nights sleep without sweating like a ho and I don’t know how – Does anyone else have this problem? What do you do to help? I know I need to make an appt with the Dr., but really can’t afford to go right now (I have a $300 deduct).
FormerF ~
I cracked up at the thought of someone who can’t properly “dispose” of their own sack of dog’s shit getting that said sack thrown at their door!! Too funny! I would do it too!
Cakegirl, do some research on the Web, and you may find that calcium helps a lot with pre-menopausal symptoms. There are other herbals you can take, but you have to be careful for any possible side effects or interactions with any drugs you take.
There are some helpful tips at this site:
http://www.everydayhealth.com/menopause/menopausal-night-sweats.aspx
“Currently the National Center for Complementary and Alternative Medicine (NCCAM) at the National Institutes of Health is funding a rigorous scientific study to determine whether taking a black cohosh supplement, extracted from the root of a native North American plant (Cimicifuga racemosa), can help reduce menopausal symptoms, including night sweats. Preliminary evidence is encouraging. Dr. Manson also recommends soy products for menopause symptoms, with a caveat: “They can be helpful for mild hot flashes and night sweats but won’t do much for the moderate to severe cases.” Similarly, a recent study found that women dealing with mild night sweats found relief from dang gui bu xue tang, a Chinese herbal remedy that includes dong quai, a popular herb from the celery family that is commonly used in traditional Chinese medicine to treat gynecological symptoms. ”
Good luck and get some help!
cakegirl68 my mom had really bad menopausal and she drank chocolate soy milk. She said it worked for her. Maybe this will help a little.
Irishmom,
Are you my mother? Seriously, she has the same problem with the neighbor dog. They let the dog out to roam at will. The dog is NOT a friendly animal. It barks and charges at mom and other neighbors. It poops anywhere but in its own yard. Mom gets out the shovel and then flings the offending poo back into the neighbor’s yard. Nice little mound. I told her to start piling it up on their driveway, like right where they can’t help but step in it. She just wishes they would actually keep the dog either leashed or in it’s own yard. The neighbors are just oblivious, or rude, or just can’t be bothered.
#13cakegirl68 – Been there, done that!! I found that soy (also mentioned by one_loveable_cutiepie) helped tremendously with my night sweats and hot flashes. I am really finicky about taste/texture/smell of food (can’t do soy milk!), but I found Kashi cereal and Luna bars (sold near the energy/protein bars) worked for me.
Ok, so Wednesday I sent an email requesting 2 days vacation
in July for my step-daughters wedding–they said NO!! What the Fuck?? (Sorry Pippa) I have worked for this company since 1980.
Even been a Manager–(Until I got sick and tired of seeing them
for what they are and resigned as Mgr.) Honestly–what dicks.
I sent another email yesterday to top dog at my location yesterday.
If when I go into work today it is still a “NO” I am going to be really pissed. My being gone for 2 days will not be the downfall of this company. What the hell is wrong with some people????
I have to first FIND the IEP for this year, then call the Special ED director and plead my case. I haven’t read it in a few months. If that doesn’t work, in IL, you basically have to go into arbitration to get services. And considering he is the least disabled in his class and we keep getting the song and dance about the economy from the district on other things, this will suck.
During the last IEP meeting, ESY was discussed, but now I have no clue if we will get it. The teacher is avoiding my hubby at pickup. I will be so happy next year when he loses his IEP for speech so I don’t have to deal with this train wreck of a district and I can privately control his therapy for SPD. yeah, it will cost me a few bucks through insurance, but if there are any screw ups, its all on me.
Oh and last year, they didn’t tell us until the second to last day of school he would get ESY. Then we had to scramble with the local co-op that runs it to get buses arranged, forms over to them to participate, buy the supply list, etc. I was hoping to be ahead of the game this year. I’ll keep you informed. Or you may see me on the 10 pm news in Chicago.
OK, this is my first entry to Friday Follies, and it might not be that much but to me it’s really getting me annoyed. I belong to this group of moms and we do stuff together. Well, there is this one woman who always has to change the plans after they are made, just so she can feel in control. And it’s really starting to irk me to no end. I’m not a control freak and I just try to go with the flow, but I’m tired of planning something for the group, sending out numerous emails to make sure people can do it and such, and then she decides to pipe in and change it and no one ever says anything to her. OK, done.
Jennifer A.
I know how you feel. I had a son who went thru special ed and all the IEP’s and such and it can really be a hassle. I hope that it all works out for him. My son was non-verbal, so as much as a pain as it was to constantly be fighting for services for him, I always felt that I was his voice. I agree with someone above who said that the squeaky wheel gets noticed. I too live in Chicago, so I hope that I don’t see you on the news. Haha.
Happy Memorial Weekend to all the Musers!!!
Cakegirl – I’m with you on the night sweats too. You really should see your gyno about it just to make sure everything’s okay. My best solution was to buy a small rotating desk fan for my nightstand and let it blow on me all night. I find the evaporation of the sweat really does cool you off better than just having the a/c on in the room.
Hey Four–I have 3 kids and would LOVE another
it’s already chaos here so my lovely hubby won’t even notice another one whatever the age!
I’m all set if I see that dog running around, the animal rescue officer told me to put the dog in my garage and call her. She’ll come get him/her/it and the owners will have to pay to get it back–if you don’t care enough to take proper care of an animal you shouldn’t be given one. Just like children
Time for the Follies:
A police recruit was asked during the exam, “What would you do if you had to arrest your own mother?”
He said: “Call for backup.”
My Company will be closing by the end of the year and (those of us not yet laid off) have known for the last four months. In the meantime, I have been doing some part time job hunting. HO HUM not much out there. Not looking forward to an all out job hunt when the time comes.
When I first got word of the impending shut down, I emailed out a few random unsolicited resumes. I did not hear anything back from any of the companies. About 6 weeks later, I saw a job advertised on Monster.com and Careerbuilder.com from one of the companies I had emailed my resume to and never heard from (I’ll call it “R”). When I read “R’s” job description on the web sites, I notice a similarity in it. The list of requirements “R” was looking for in the job candidate was in the exact order as stated in MY RESUME! It looked as though someone literally did a copy and paste from my resume and tried to disguise it by changing a few words around.
I could not believe what I was looking at but, I then applied to the job on the Careerbuilder web site. AND you guess it … two months later and I HAVE NEVER HEARD FROM “R”! The have the nerve to use my resume but never talk to me, the author of “THEIR” job description!
The story gets better ……. I got a call two days ago from a recruiter friend of mine. I sent my resume to her four months ago also. She said she may have the perfect job for me ! She did not tell me the company but, read the job description off to see if I was interested. When she was done I said “and I can tell you who that company is!” To her surprise I correctly named “R”! I told her I had already sent my resume to them and they were obviously not interested. Without stating my suspicions, I noted to her to compare my resume to that job description …… All I heard on the other end of the phone was … “OMG!”
This is my first Friday rant. I need to vent about my coworkers. I work for a large Fortune 500 company, and we have gone through several layoffs this past year. Due to the nature of my job function in Quality, my team has been protected with the exception of one team member who was not an employee, but a contractor. You would think that people would work extra hard as people all around them are letting go, but not my dysfunctional team. I am a proud member of Generation X, not a slacker. I just don’t understand how coworkers (some of whom are older than I) just act like complete morons and do nothing all day long!
#13cakegirl68
Ok, my complaint is this:
I am soon to be 41 and I think I may be “pre-menopausal”! Now don’t get me wrong – I cannot wait to no longer have a period, but I can do without the NIGHT SWEATS!! I keep the a/c at 68 every night (yes, it is FREEZING in the morning – lol) and still wake up oh, about every 2 hours SWEATING like a whore!
I laughed out loud at “sweating like a whore”! Awesome phrasing
Cake, have you tried sleeping with a table fan aimed directly at you ? It may help with drying your sweat before it actually wakes you up at night?
Have a great Memorial Day weekend!
I just found out we are going to have pay cuts! Why the fuck can’t we all do Furlough weeks again? This sucks and I’m pissed off! Great way to start a weekend.
Jennifer A I am so with you about the summer stuff. I mean I paid for a Zoo membership back home in CO (when I thought we were moving back) and it includes a week for each kid to go to Zoo camp . . . .Well now I’m not moving back and the Zoo says “It’s a contribution” NO IT”S $300 that I need right now to do things in WI and I cannot find any camps here and of course all of my kiddo’s friends are doing great things like going to Wisconsin Dells for a week or going to Valleyfair in MN . . . and I’m tired of not being able to give these things to my kids and it sucks and I feel like I’m letting them down . . . I know I know I’m not but I’m stuck in mommy guilt land and I just need things to get better. . . . Once agian MOON
thanks for letting me rant 
OK, Ive never posted here before and this isn’t a rant… its a YAHOOOOO ABOUT F-ING TIME!!!!!!
Im happy today because after a year and a half of waiting, my autistic son will have at home therapy starting in September!!! YAY!
Oh, and he learned how to ride his bike this past week (hes almost 5) and now hes a pro!
That’s it, thanks for listening!
THANKS SO MUCH TO:
*Giddy from the Heat – I will check out that site immediately!
*one_lovable_cutiepie – I have never tried soymilk, but I am willing to try ANYTHING at this point!
*Koopdedoo – I will have to try the Kashi cereal and the Luna bars too…(might lose a little weight too which would be NICE lol!)
Chrissy – I will try the fan and have already got an appt to see my gyn the first of June. (Hubby has been on me about going too
)
FormerF – Gonna give the fan idea a try. Glad I gave ya a laugh!
Hope everyone has a wonderful weekend!!
I have this old aunt who lives up the street. I hate her. Today she brought over these stupid little baskets of silk flowers she was going to put on graves for Memorial Day and she’d made hand written cards with poems on them. She wanted me to take her to the cemetery later to pick them back up after she’d left them..because she didn’t want anyone to see her poetry. She said it was too personal and must be kept private. Also she thinks people will steal it because she’s famous.
Well, let me tell you, she is NOT famous and she’s a terrible poet. Yes, Heaven’s height rhymes with eagles flight. Does that give you a hint to her great talent? She’s a third rate (maybe fourth) romance writer. I hate her. I would rather set myself on fire then read her stuff. When she has a good, cough, creative year, she makes enough money to go blow it all in Vegas in a weekend. Yeah, so famous.
Ordinarily I’d cheer her on despite what she lacks creativley, but, she’s so damn mean and hateful. As she was shoving these ridiculous poems in my face not to read, (eyes roll ’till they come out my ass) she said she wanted me to illustrate the cover of her next epic romance. I said nothing. THEN she started yaking about how I’ve given up, don’t do anything anymore and I am wasting my God given talent. “Deary me, it’s so sad that you stopped being an artist and you never tried writing. You’ve given your gift from God away. Just given up. You don’t do anything.” Like she’s giving me a great gift and opportunity to do a free cover for her pissy book. I hate her so much.
This old bitch doesn’t even know me, not really. She has no computer. She reads nothing but her own crap. I get so mad. I do things all day long! I get more done in a day than that old wrinkled wanna be gets done in a decade. She has no idea. Fricken old prune faced mean old goofy load of shit. And she knows I’m a Pagan so the God stuff was thrown in to irritate. She’s 90 years old. How many more years does she have to try and make people feel worthless? I don’t want to hate her, but, I do. I hate her more than wasp stings and nettles.
Get a computer, old bitch, I’m tired of typing your (gag me to death) best sellers. Oh, and she actually asked me to tell her she was a wonderful poet. Go ahead, tell me. Smug smile. I HATE HER.
My rant is this..
People that trade their food stamps for beer and cigarettes.
Also those people that I have stood behind at the check out lane at the grocery store and watched them stack all their groceries on the checkout, just to watch them pay for all those prime- cut steaks and chops and they have the nerve to whip out those food stamps to pay for them.
Now that really pisses me off.
Normal hard working people like my husband and myself, have a cart filled with hamburger , tuna helper and hot dogs.
Now that pisses me off.
After all , that’s MY money that bought those stamps in the first place!
Now let say that, I do believe there are people out there that need and deserve the food stamps. Those are the people that have lost their jobs or for health reasons are not able to work.
Also, I have wondered how BM could afford a computer in the first place. Yeap, I bet that BM sold or traded her damn food stamps for that computer she uses to write those well thought out love posts all over the internet about her BFF.
Food stamps !
Now that REALLY pisses me off !
I am not the States Attorney
I am not the Department of Family Services
I am not a lawyer
I am not a judge
I do not work for any of the above, nor have I ever
No, I do not have the secret “bat number” that gets me through to anyone, I have to stay on hold for 1/2 an hour or more too
No, I didn’t get the money
Stop asking me stupid questions and follow the directions on the paperwork you are getting in the mail – call them, not me!
Wow – that felt good – off to make dinner now.
#27TVsnark
I just found out we are going to have pay cuts! Why the fuck can’t we all do Furlough weeks again? This sucks and I’m pissed off! Great way to start a weekend.
You know with a recession going on, I have to wonder if some companies use that as an excuse to make pay cuts.
In my job hunt I know I am finding a decline in salaries offered. A few years ago when jobs in my profession were everywhere salaries were higher. My employer actually increase my salary 20% one year to make sure I was not tempted by a higher salary elsewhere. Times have changed unfortunately.
If you are adding jobs to your work force obviously, your company is not suffering from the recession. I’m beginning to think firms are using the recession as a way to take advantage of working people in general.
DD
kinda sounds like Take in about 40 years!!!
My first ranting…I started a part time job a month ago. Mind you, I am there only to assist the current Admin, who as best I can see, is taking major advantage of the situation. Now that I’m there, she has someone to “watch over the office” while she traipses around. I hadn’t been there 10 min. today (I work 11-3, 1 day/ wk and 11-2:30 the other 4 days) when she said she was going to the bank, for herself. She was gone 1 hr. 15 min. Then, a couple hrs. later she leaves for an hr. and 20 min. lunch! (BTW, this is a state job). So, first gripe, they want me to work 18 hrs. wk. but I have to spread them out over the 5 days (instead of 3 days @ 6 hr) just so this chick can have her “tea” break at 11:30 and her 1+ hr. lunch at 1:10. Since it pays crap, I’m not sure how much I’m actually earning, w/gas etc. PLUS, she relinquishes her desk to me, when I come in and moves to the back of the office to another desk w/computer, supposedly to get uninterrupted time (no phone answering) to do I’m not sure what. YET, she continually comes back up and turns off the computer that I am using, when my back is turned. I asked her today, why she did that, as I was typing a word doc. (I’d saved) She had no answer! This lady is about 58 yrs. old and uses an old clunker typewriter for everything she does. The thing has got to be 30 yrs. old. Anyway, per our bosses’ request, I tried to teach her some basic computer skills, but she REFUSES to learn. AND, SM@L, same here. The program the office uses is inaccessible to me. So, when the chick is gone, I’m feeling like an idiot that I can’t answer people’s questions, cause I can’t get on the system!
PLUS, this chick acts like she thinks I want her job! I dont’ want her job, I don’t want any job! I want to play in the garden, read, computer time, bake, etc. I’m only there because, much like a lot of retirees, I needed to go back to work to live! Bottom line, I’m doing everything in that office that involves anything except that damn program I can’t access. (That part I’m am ok with, as I can’t stand to be idle!)
Cakegirl, definitely try the herbs, etc. first. BUT, if they don’t work, bite the bullet if possible and see your gyn. While I’m not sure at your age, I’d want to go on hormones yet, they did help me when I was pre-menopausal at 47. PLUS, I turn the a/c down to 67 deg. one of the pluses of being divorced. (My other fav, I can eat a half bag of cheetos and strawberry shortcake for dinner, and not feel guilty – well I do feel a bit guilty eating garbage, but not guilty for not cooking)
Dirtydisher~
Get a computer, old bitch, I’m tired of typing your (gag me to death) best sellers.
You could write a best seller, Dirty, just writing these!
(and I am more than serious!)
#30Gram123
My rant is this..
People that trade their food stamps for beer and cigarettes.
Also those people that I have stood behind at the check out lane at the grocery store and watched them stack all their groceries on the checkout, just to watch them pay for all those prime- cut steaks and chops and they have the nerve to whip out those food stamps to pay for them.
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Having seen many comments here on food stamps, I am reluctant to admit that I am on them now; hopefully only for a brief period of time. I am soon to be 65, lost my job a couple of yrs. ago, but worked part time after that and was managing money-wise. Until, my health took a major turn a little over a year ago, and not being able to afford health insurance, I am awaiting extensive surgery once I receive Medicare later this year. I live w/pain 24/7, but, it was either the health ins. or my home, one had to go.
As I posted up thread, I have managed to find a pt. time job which was able to accommodate my physical needs. Unfortunately, the job pays squat, and I’m only allowed to work 18 hrs. wk. but feel I am not able to be too choosey. Jobs are scarce out there, and especially in my area, for someone my age and with my physical needs as to the type of job I can perform. With food stamps, you are allowed X amt. a month (based on both income and family size), and of course, anything over allotted amt., you pay for. My state does not have actual “stamps”, rather a card just like a bank/ATM card. I admit, I have been guilty of buying a steak recently. I don’t know about trading for cigs and beer, so can’t address that, but I know non-food items are not covered. At the present time, a steak is a huge “treat” for me, and the only area in my life right now, in which I am afforded a luxury. I may get a steak for one meal during the month, but I may have to trade off to do that and eat peanut butter and jelly andwiches for a few nites that month. I can assure you, the state does not give out excessive amts. of money in the form of food stamps. While I understand there are probably “career food stampers” out there, please don’t assume that everyone is trying to rape the system. I assure you, there is a real sense of failure and loss of dignity, at least for me, when I had to ask for help, in the form of food stamps. My adult children help me out occasionally also. I assure you, as someone who all her life has not only been independent, but has resisted asking for or receiving help from anyone, to receive it from my children is the most difficult!
I just wanted to make people aware, that not everyone on food stamps looks at it as a “windfall”, but rather a bridge to tide you over, til the more prosperous times return.
Linda
w/ ref to Gram123
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I believe you are an exception. It’s sad to say that many people do not see this assistance as a “bridge” but it’s look at as a generational right. It is those whom I personally have vented here about. The ones who, at the check out line after they swipe their card, realize that the dog food they just tried to purchase isn’t covered so they send they kid back to get ground beef instead. I know for me, it’s the abuse of it that is irritating.
Linda~
Having seen many comments here on food stamps, I am reluctant to admit that I am on them now; hopefully only for a brief period of time. I am soon to be 65, lost my job a couple of yrs. ago, but worked part time after that and was managing money-wise. Until, my health took a major turn a little over a year ago, and not being able to afford health insurance, I am awaiting extensive surgery once I receive Medicare later this year. I live w/pain 24/7, but, it was either the health ins. or my home, one had to go.
HUGS!
And again, I want to make my stance on Food Stamps and other social services. I have never, nor do I now, have any problem whatsoever with any social service that a person or a family needs. I also have absolutely NO PROBLEM with someone treating themselves to some good eats with those benefits; you or anyone else is deserving of same.
My issues stemmed from social service fraud that was prevalent in the area in which I lived (South Florida), primarily prior to the Welfare Reform Act. Unfortunately too, the root of a lot of the fraud in my area was internal to the system. In other words social service workers would fake a great deal of applications for their friends or family, etc, taking away vital funds for those that really needed it. It was a mess there for a good while.
I have absolutely NO problems at all with any form of social services as long as the person needs it. It is the ones that don’t and use it anyway taking away funds that is meant to help others, is who I have a problem with.
BTW…in continuaton of rant above (#33)
IRRITATED!!
I’m going to go clean something to calm down…
My Fellow Musers – have a peacful night.
I own a small motel on the Jersey Shore. This time of year a lot of young adults want to come and stay on weekends. They want to celebrate graduations, come after proms or just party. I have a strict rule, which I never bend, no one under 25 is allowed to rent without an adult accompanying them. What really aggrevates me is when a person calls to rent a room and tells me it is for their kids and themselves. Of course I ask them questions. They reply, “yes it’s for me, yes I’m over 25, of course I’m staying with them.” OK fine. They’ll come down, check-in, pay for the room, go to the room, and sometimes even stock it with alcohol. After 15 years in this business I can tell(most of the time) when something just isn’t right. So I keep my eye on them. Sure enough the parent leaves the room and heads towards the car. That’s when I approach them, call them out on their scam and tell them everyone has to leave or I will call the police. They usually go with no problems, just maybe a little embarrassed.
I am not a mean person, but these kids are young, between the ages of 17- 20, sometimes even 15. I refuse to be responsible for underage kids alone and especially if they’re drinking! What kind of parent lets children come to the Shore with no supervision? Derelicts, that’s who, and they really PISS ME OFF!
maureen~
I am not a mean person, but these kids are young, between the ages of 17- 20, sometimes even 15. I refuse to be responsible for underage kids alone and especially if they’re drinking! What kind of parent lets children come to the Shore with no supervision? Derelicts, that’s who, and they really PISS ME OFF!
Take a bow! I applaud you!
Heidi, I hope your procedure went well this morning, and that everything will be okay. I was taking a walk today, and when bunnies, butterflies, and baby birdies started appearing out of nowhere (granted, I saw a few steaming turd piles, too), I made a wish that you were well, and that everything will be okay.
Linda ~ Have you checked out any food pantries in your area? A friend of mine runs one at her church. When the pantry started 3 years ago there were only about 25 families signed up, they are now over 100 families… and this is supposed to be a very affluent township. She has told me that I would qualify – my budget is a real squeeker & the medical bills are over 25% of my monthly income. At the moment I can make due & would rather people more in need go to the pantry. Check with your local churches, there are probably several pantries in your area.
#38-Linda-also check into couponing to stretch your food dollars farther. A lot of people laugh at the idea of coupons but I save (on average) between $30-$50/week doing this. I’ve only been at it a few months but I’m amazed at how much it all adds up. Good luck to you!!
The food pantry is also a great idea! My Mom doesn’t quite qualify for food stamps but she lives next door to the food pantry and when things are tight she can go there to get help. Its a great thing!!
#2 Jennifer A-I feel your pain!! Getting ESY here is always a treat. Not sure if its the same in Illinois but in our great state in order to get ESY you have to prove not only that your child will regress in the 3 months school is out but also without ESY that he will NEVER GAIN IT BACK!! I’m not kidding! Now who in the world can prove your child will never gain back a skill they lose during summer break? I don’t get that rule at all. Like I have a crystal ball or something……
That being said, keep being the squeaky wheel. Call his teacher and ask. Call the resource teacher. Call whoever is responsible for the IEP. The principal. The superintendent. Whomever is responsible for the ESY……Keep on pushing. They don’t like it but you will eventually get an answer about your question!
Former F: my Dad had the same issue with the people in the house behind him. They were always bringing their dog into his yard to poop…..right next to the playground that my folks had built for their grandkids. So my Dad just picked up the poop everytime and laid it on their deck. It took about 10 times (!!!!) but these people finally got the hint.
#44cj
Linda ~ Have you checked out any food pantries in your area? A friend of mine runs one at her church.
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Thank you cj….I have and there is one. You have to purchase the items in rather large “packages” and it’s wayyy more food than I could ever eat. Yes, I know I could freeze the meat, but I just can’t finish that much meat in 2 months. In spite of having food stamps, I am still quite frugal, and the thought of wasting food (freezer burn, spoiling, etc) does not set well w/me. I shop coupons, as one of the grocery stores here has triple coupons about every 6-8 wks. and I take advantage of that.
I’m a bit embarrassed at the “responses” I received to my post….I sincerely did not share for that purpose, but more towards noting that there are some of us out here, who 1., do not take it for granted and 2. do not abuse the privilege. Thank you for your thoughts and hugs (Moon). I have a strong faith, and while I do get down on myself occasionally, I believe things will turn around.
OMG, ground beef for dog food! I’ve heard it all…..I can assure you, I buy my cat cat food and I do not go back, for fresh tuna!
Heidi- my mom has meneire’s disease. It really is a horrible thing, and i think pretty rare. She always said if there was a fire and she was having an attack, she’d have to die because its too bad. We had to call an ambulance for her this past summer and they almost couldn’t get her out of the house. I feel for you.
My rant – ugh started my new job… it went terrible. But after spending Wednesday night bawling my eyes out I don’t really feel like venting. They are just so disorganized i have no idea why I started work yet. I’m working for the CEO, and she has nothing for me, so i sit there doing nothing. She is gone on vacation again so she said i could just read. wtf does she mean read? like do i bring a book and just read? Cause if that’s the case I’ll just sit home and read thank you. stupid. Nobody told me anything. I learnt all on my own. I just happened to ask the receptionist a question when she mentions that I have tax forms in my mail box? O ya cause I knew I had a mailbox right? I can’t even ask questions because they don’t have time for me. I get an e-mail (though no one tells me I had a company e-mail) that time sheets are due for certain types of workers. Ha! Right cause someone told me I had to fill out a time sheet? I don’t even have a contract yet! So besides the 5 mins the first day with the CEO, I have been on my own with nothing to do. Ugh!
Also, I suffer from really bad anxiety so I was going to go back to therapy. Well I’ve been to more psychologists than I think anyone in the world because I can never find a good one. Well i finally found an incredible lady 3 years ago so I e-mailed her asking to come back. Well she raised her rates to $200/hour (eek!), changed locations that I’d have a hard time getting to now, and doesn’t do evening appointments. So now I have to find a new one, which I hate.
Finally my last rant (didn’t think this would be too long sorry!). Wednesday morning I go to the front door to get the newspaper. I’m just about to close the door when I see what looks like a black pair of gloves in the corner next to my door. I stare for a really long time, wondering why gloves would be there (though it has been snowing this week, so it wouldn’t be too strange). I’m still confused and ready to pick up these supposed gloves when I see these eyes stare at me. Now I have a huge phobia of all animals so i throw the news paper and slam the door. Now I know my province is rat free, but I swear this was a rat. I spent 4 months doing phobia treatment with rats so I know what they look like, and this was way too small to be a mouse. So now my anxiety has peaked, I’m so jumpy and driving my boyfriend crazy. And I can’t find the number for rat patrol, only a scary website.
Linda,
I am sorry if my post affended you in any way. It certainly was not intended to offend anyone here.
I did say that I felt there were situations that they were indeed needed, yours being one of those. I am truly sorry for the struggles you must be facing now and my prayers are with you and your family.
I was simply referring to those people that have never worked to support their family. Most of them don’t even try to find employment. I realize at this time jobs are hard to come by for anyone. I do think before this recession hit, there were jobs for those people that were just too lazy to apply for them.They continue to suck everything out of the system that they can and I just don’t think it is right. They ARE the ones that hurt the deserving people that truly need the help.
Again, I am truly sorry that my above post offended anyone. I guess that I just didn’t state it the way it was meant.
I want to throw in , that I am a part of a local food pantry and have a small part in helping to collect food for the needy. I dearly love the elderly and help with their needs in any way I can. They are my passion and I will continue to help them until I am no longer able to do so.
God bless you Linda !
Linda~
I’m a bit embarrassed at the “responses” I received to my post….I sincerely did not share for that purpose, but more towards noting that there are some of us out here, who 1., do not take it for granted and 2. do not abuse the privilege. Thank you for your thoughts and hugs (Moon). I have a strong faith, and while I do get down on myself occasionally, I believe things will turn around.
Please do not be embarrassed as there is nothing to be embarrassed about! I think Musers just want to help any way that they can
Have you ever heard of the Angel Ministries Program? I love this program and it is NOT just for food stamp recipients, though they do take food stamps, which I think is fantastic! They are nationwide and I know a few families at my fellowship that participate in the program and love it. Something to check out, anyway: http://www.angelfoodministries.com/
Linda – I’ve got a just a touch of frugality lodged somewhere deep in my DNA; hell … to be honest, I’m so tight I could squeeze the shit out of a buffalo nickel. And I have found that sometimes you can find incredible deals/coupons online by Googling the item you’re looking for followed by the word “coupon.” For example, “Maxwell House coffee coupons,” “Dawn dishwashing liquid coupons,” “Dr Phil Hair Salon coupons,” etc. This works for not only food, but household items, electronics, etc. Keep your head up high, kiddo …. all things must pass.
Linda ~
Check if there are any other pantries in your area. At the local church pantry, no one purchases anything. It’s all free, to memebers and nonmembers of the church & they really don’t do an income check. You can pick and choose what items you want/ need. I’ve been told that some of the Giant size items (that have been purchased from the City pantry) are broken down into normal size packages. If my budget permitted, I would contribute monitarily to the pantry – but, don’t have the extra cash. What I do contribute is plastic/ paper grocery bags and medium size boxes. They are always looking for ‘containers’ for bagging. This doesn’t cost me anything & it helps them and the enviroment.
Food pantries will also take donations of nonfood items. When we moved Mother out of her house to a nursing home several years ago, this pantry got Donations! Mother was a hoarder. We found over 90 new college ruled notebooks, 75-80 pens and boxes of pencils, 60 tubes of toothpaste, 80+ bars of bath soap, 60+ boxes of Kleenex. And the list goes on. Donated all of this just before the new school year started. Mother was old, crazy and suffering from dementia. She would see something on sale & buy in large quantities, forgetting that she already had shelves at home stocked with these items.
Linda, you have nothing to be embarrassed about. I used food stamps long ago and I think I’m lucky not to need them now, though I probably qualify. Buy yourself a steak! That old aunt I was ranting about earlier..I have to haul her old butt to the store sometimes and when I buy steak on sale, she’ll look in my cart and say (real loud) “Well, you’re living high on the hog!” It makes me so disgusted. I live in rural Iowa, farm country. Steak is often cheaper than good hot dogs when it’s on sale. Some people! Uhh, my aunt..not people on here. LOL!
I am so sick of our cities school system. Friday my eighth grade daughter received a three day suspension. The same lame ass. principal that tried to give her detentions for a month for missing school she didn’t miss suspended her. On her way home on the bus some nice young man decided to sit in his seat and repeatedly yell Bitch at her. She told him to shut up. Well then he found a few more choice words, none of them nice. So my daughter told the bus aid, that means there were two adults on the bus including the driver. Said bus aid asked the nice little asshole to leave my daughter alone. However he didn’t feel the need to follow instruction that day. A few miles later little asshole continued to yell bitch and other nice things at my daughter, so she got out of her seat and punched him in the mouth twice stating that she had asked him to leave her alone. So her suspension slip says “boy was calling my daughter names and she informed the bus aid that he would not leave her alone. Aid tells other child to be quiet. Other child continues to harass my daughter. My daughter decided to take the matter into her own hands striking bully in the face twice.” So I ask the principal, transportation supervisor, superintendent and any other person I could call, Why is she suspended because a bus aid did not do her job? I gave several offers on ideas to remedy said situation i.e. move one of the children, kick the bully of the bus, anything just do your job!! After several phone calls the other child too is suspended, because he wasn’t in the first place, and my daughter will be able to make up all missed work (she has been on the honor roll all year). Transportation admitted the aid is incompetent, however my daughter is still suspended. Some people may disagree but as far as I am concerned the little ass had it coming!
#51Gram123
Linda,
I am sorry if my post affended you in any way. It certainly was not intended to offend anyone here.
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Absolutely, no apology needed Gram. I just felt almost, well, guilty and felt I wanted to share that there are times when one is forced to accept help, no matter how much they may not want to. Actually, I believe the situation I find myself in right now, may well be a lesson in both patience and humility. I know I’m gaining more of each! After being a SAHM for many years, I went back to work, due to divorce after 28 yrs. of marriage. My kids are my greatest reward! They have all become very special young women of integrity, compassion and good character. I am proud to be their mom! They all received their undergrad. degrees, and 2 of them, their advanced degrees. I never fail to “brag” on all of them. My oldest dtr., made law review her first yr. of law school and is in practice plus teaching a few courses at the law school from which she graduated. My middle dtr. spent 6 yrs. at university, studying to become an architect, and now has her own business. My youngest, in spite of many major health issues during her teens and early 20’s, having to drop out of college for 1.5 yrs, obtained her BA degree in music and is now a music director at a local middle school. (Just went and saw her spring musical 2 wks. ago and it was not only great, it warmed my heart, how much her students think of her.) When I do have a “pity party” occasionally, I remind myself, what wonderful daughters I have! They are a blessing, I’m convinced, beyond any other that we could ever receive on this side of the hereafter!! AND, if they aren’t reward enough, I have 4 grandchildren that I adore!!
Moon, Angel Ministries is the program I was referring to that I’m aware of in my area. I have spoken w/them, and you are correct, they do take food stamps. I just felt the “packages” they offer are sooo big. I bet I don’t eat more than 5-6 lbs. of meat a month. I don’t really eat that much, and when I do, I tend to pick at food. But, you have spurred me on to contact them again, and give it a try. They also have, what I got the impression was, like frozen dinners/meals. While I love to cook, again standing presents a problem after a just a matter of minutes. But I do go at it occasionally.
#55DirtyDisher
Linda, you have nothing to be embarrassed about. I used food stamps long ago and I think I’m lucky not to need them now, though I probably qualify. Buy yourself a steak! That old aunt I was ranting about earlier..I have to haul her old butt to the store sometimes and when I buy steak on sale, she’ll look in my cart and say (real loud) “Well, you’re living high on the hog!” It makes me so disgusted. I live in rural Iowa, farm country. Steak is often cheaper than good hot dogs when it’s on sale. Some people! Uhh, my aunt..not people on here. LOL
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DD, ROFLMA, you never fail to get a huge laugh out of me! (BTW, a gazillion yrs. ago, we lived directly across the Mississippi from Clinton, Iowa, in Morrison, IL, ever heard of it?) I have posted a few times over at your site, and have always wanted to ask you, who’s crabbie? And, that is you planting the garden, right? All the pics, etc?? My SIL came and mixed my “ingredients” for my veggie garden this spring. Can I tell you, that is one good mix! My veggies, strawberries and herbs are growing like weeds!! While I couldn’t lift the heavy bags or spread the mix out, I could sit in a chair and plant the seeds and seedlings! (Small garden) What a sense of pride one gets from the “fruits of their labor”. I am enjoying that garden more than I could have imagined!
Thank you all for your kind suggestions and such sweet thoughts! Truly, musers are the best!!! You have no idea how special those thoughts are to me!
#54cj
The food pantry is not one I was aware of…I will check that out, thank you for bringing it to my attention! All I could think when I read your post, was how gracious that was of you to donate all those items your mom had purchased! Have you learned nothing from watching Kate? You could have made mega bucks at the consignment shop I bet!!!
migoss, where the hell do you live because I want my girl hanging out with your girl!!
Kudooos! I love that story and it actually made my day!! (I hate bullies so much and a boy getting slugged by a girl is justice, imo).
So many things to cover and comment on.
I got I guess would be considered good news at the Derm appt on Friday.
The biopsied wart on my face is/was a pre-cancerous sun spot. So that means I have to wear a hat in the yard when I garden and lots of SPF 1000 sunsceen (ROFL they gave me 70). The thing on my scalp is some growth (i cannot remember the name of it) that can be left alone for now. They can grow larger. If this one does or begins to hurt, she will have me come in to have it removed. I had the thing on my arm removed for biopsy. She thinks it is another sun spot.
I have to go in for yearly body checks from now on. Lovely! Strip down and spread em! LOL
Thank you for all your thoughts!
My Meneiere`s used to be really bad but I never got the *room is spinning* symptom. I do have hearing loss in the affected ear. I have cut my sodium way down over the years so that I only suffer from about 3-4 attacks in the colder months. They do knock you for a loop though.
Linda,
Look online for an organization called Angel Food Ministries. They work out of different churches in the country. You may find a church in your area that does it. They have a menu plan of food each month. They have different boxes that you purchase. You have to buy the first box for $30, which is usually meat and staples. Then you can purchase other boxes that range from $15-20 each. Some are big veggie boxes and some are meat boxes. One box is supposed to feed a family of four for a month. You pay the church and then you pick up on a specific day. I have done it and many of my friends have too. You get way more food for your money and it is really good stuff. Not crap.
As for getting help, do not be ashamed at all. If you need it, you do it. This past winter I found out that we were eligible for winter oil assistance. I got a voucher for enough home heating oil that I did not have to pay for a drop this year. I made a world of difference in our lives and I am grateful.
I look at it this way..if and when your situation improves..Pay it forward. If you got help, when you are able to, you give help!
Migoss,
In our school district, that is how it is. Even if you are getting your ass kicked, if you fight back to defend yourself..you get suspended too.
This is what I told both my girls. If you are in a situation where somebody is beating the piss out of you and they started it, fight back! I will be a little bit peeved if you let somebody hurt you and you did not get your licks in. I will not be mad at you for it and you will not be in trouble with me when you get suspended.
IF I find out that you started a fight, your ass is grass. You have a brain and a mouth, learn to use your words.
So fighting to defend yourself I am all for. Being a bully and you are dead meat to me..LOL
Migoss, I think your Dd did the right thing! I would have wanted my Dd to do the exact same thing in that situation.
Because if she let him to continue, he would have done it every single day for the rest of the school year.
Heidi, I am familiar w/Angel Food Ministries. Thanks for the reminder!
As for your “sun spots”, being very fair myself, and in my youth, having been a sun worshiper, I am also covered with spots, and have only myself to blame, I regret all those yrs. of lathering on baby oil w/iodine in it, and baking on the beach.
Linda,
one of the spots turned into a wart looking thing. It grew really quick. I am 40 but I still get a pimple or two (i hate that!) so I thought it was a pimple.
Then it did not go away.
Then I thought it was a wart. So I tried at home remedies and store remedies. It did not go away. Then it started to bleed and itch. This was in a span of less then 2 months.
Once it bled and itched, I made a Dr. appt.
I used baby oil on my skin, Sun-in in my hair, and laid on one of those fold up foil things to get nice a baked! ROFL.
I am swedish and italian (polish and norwegian too), so I burn first and then tan.
Stupid children werent we?