Musings from the Moon

My almost one year old (She turns 1 this Saturday Woohoo!) had been running a fever the last couple of days, prompting me to get her in to the pediatrician today. We got into the docs office and we were ushered into one of the exam rooms to wait our turn. Well, all of you with kids know that when they start on the solid foods their poopies start to smell adult-like. So of course what happens right before the doctor comes into our room? She lets out a humdinger of a fart that I swear shook the exam table she was sitting on. Of course I start giggling which prompts her to giggle as the doctor walks in and I see him do a double take. He politely starts checking the baby as the smell is wafting around the room getting worse! I don’t know why but I think he thought I did it. I start to babble about checking her diaper and of course it’s dry, but I don’t think the doctor believed me. He just smiled knowingly and kept examining her. I wanted to point to her and say “She did it” but it would’ve seemed akward at that point so I gave up. I wouldn’t have believed me either. I mean, it smelled like an adult fart! I told my husband when we got home he thought it was awesome and praised her for being her Daddy’s girl. My little one just looked at both of us, smiling proudly about her accomplishment.

Turns out she had a little ear infection which I’m relieved about. We have a little bash planned for her on Saturday so it would have sucked if she had the flu. I’m excited for the weekend!

Heidi;
Not trying to give advice when it wasn’t asked of me, BUT. . .
I see my women friends doing this all of the time. Putting everyone’s needs ahead of their own. You are sick! You have every right to stay home and take care of YOURSELF! You owe that brat nothing. You take care of her Mom’s emotional needs by listening to her problems. I’m just saying. . .you have every right to take care of yourself with NO guilt.
Have a Happy Friday!

No, Heidi, it’s not that you’re nut-less. It’s just a habit that we all fall into. Putting everyone else ahead of ourselves. We get so used to doing it, we even do it for people we don’t like!!!
You’re not ball-less; just caring. But like my Dr. tells me; you can’t take care of anyone else unless you take care of yourself first!!

Now, what’s this you say of an E special about J+K??
I’m gonna check my listings!! Thank you for that!!!

like my mother always said if your mad write it all down and tear it up. Well I cant tear this up after I write it. But maybe coming forth telling my rant will make me feel better.
Well for about 3 months my husband and I are not getting along with each other. Its also the same with my parents.
With him he has been laid off to only 3 days a week. I on the other hand work 40 plus a week still. I get only 2 days off to even spend time with my daughter. He gets 4 days. Not really.. But on his days pretty much fri he is doing laundry at his moms and doing all her house chores etc. So Fri Ava my daughter is at my parents. Then Sat and Sun sometimes he will watch her till I get home. Unless my parents want to take her. He has been doing better with her since she is almost a year playing more etc. But he still doesn’t feed her correctly, change her at appropriate times and gets very frustrate with her very quickly. Now on the other hand my parents mostly my father gets the same way with Ava. He gets very frustrate with her quickly and shoves her off.

What frustrates me with all of this is that. I still do the shopping, cooking, cleaning, bottle making, bathtime giver, lunch maker, feed the cats, take out the garbage, dishes by hand, mop, vacuum and laundry. Mostly I do laundry on tue one of my days off with Ava. Every day I do light cleaning. Tue heavy cleaning around the house. Wen I use relax with Ava before I have to get ready for work on thur. Man do I feel like jon at times unappreciated..
I never get any free time to do anything.. mostly its work, back home work sleep and work. He on the other hand works, either goes out, draws, watches movies/ video games, sleeps etc..
Yes I do admit I will get a 20 min break here or there but not that often. I’m also blessed that when Ava was 3 months old she slept through the night till 7or 8 am.
This is why he gets mad.. Well he gets upset that I really do suffer from o.c.d. That I’m ” anal” that im not spontaneous anymore, everything bothers me, I cant relax to name a few.
Manly I cant relax is because I have to write him stupid post notes to remember to do this.. I’m suprised he can take a shower on his own without forgetting. 3 months ago I mention things to him about helping out more, getting a break, help me at times more than his friends and mom, try to be a father to Ava.
He has been getting better slightly/slowly. But just once I wished he did somethings without asking or helping out more.. Now I sound like Kate.. That is what really got me in the mess with Eric first place being a controlling/manipulating bitch.. He was sick of my nagging and smart ass remarks.. Ive tried and kept alot inside 3 months. I just cant walk around eggs shells and keep it inside and do it all.. We are both bullhead smart asses at times. So fighting never solves anything with us we could be there to the end of the world still fighting over the same stupid piece of do-do lol…

sorry so long everyone.. sorry moon but I do feel a little bit better getting this all out…

oh yes nice to see Enetwork has also cashed into the cash cow.

One_lovable_cutiepie: My ex wouldn’t have anything to do with his kids until they could interact with him. At one time he was out of work for 2 years and wouldn’t even put dishes in the dishwasher because he was so sick – yet he could practice/attend Kenpo classes 5 times a week.

I want to submit something to you – with the disclaimer that I don’t know your situation – at one time I thought I had a terrible temper and that I was crazy because I was so tired, etc. Then I divorced then husband and haven’t felt that way since. Of course, he was abusive in every way – so that weighed heavily into it, but I have realized that sometimes it really isn’t -you- it’s the person you’re living with pushing your buttons and deliberately putting you in a situation that makes you pop because you can’t handle it.

Anyhow – my gripe:

Hubby has been out of work for almost 6 months, unemployment is drying up in July, I only work part time because I’m going to school – my ex is a jerk, I’m in therapy, and I’m scared about the future. I know that the worse case scenario is that I lose my house and have to move in with my parents, so it isn’t all that bad (i.e. I’d have a roof over my head and food to eat and my parents are cool), but I still can’t help being uber-stressed about it.

Ok, update from last Friday’s rant. I FOUND the IEP for this year (actually didn’t take all that long.) They marked NO for Extended School Year. So no summer school for my son at this point. The teacher is still avoiding my hubby and seriously, I just give up at this point. I know they are trying to get my son out of the program for another child to take his spot (he is the least disabled in the class) and we will probably lose his IEP when he turns 5 in January.
So, we are sending him to VBS for a week, two weeks of a Lutheran church preschool program (two other kids from his class are going), three weeks of SEASPAR day camp (keep in mind ALL of these are half day programs), and shuttling him between family to make up the rest.

One Lovable Cutie Pie – I’m keeping you and your family in my thoughts…it’s frustrating, I know.

My rant is actually, not a rant but a lament/story. I am sad. I have probably 50 yrs. off the back and side of my house, a large, large wooded area, in which apparently, some feral cats reside. I have been feeding 2 of these cats for about 2 yrs. They are sisters. I have 2 beds for them in my storage shed for bad weather. In the winter, they are always asleep in their beds when I get up in the am, waiting for me to feed them. In the summer, same except on my patio waiting for me. I named them Badgley and Mischka. Badgley is sleek and skittish and will not let me pat her. Mischka is fluffy and quite friendly, will let me pat her, clean her “burrs” off her coat, etc. (especially when I have food in my hand for them). Tues. before Memorial wkend, Badgley didn’t show up for meals. She has been AWOL for up to 3 days before, so I wasnt too concerned. But, after 4 days I got concerned and after a wk. I realized she wasn’t coming back Also, she always had scrapes, cuts, etc. from what I assume were fights, tho not sure who or what she would fight. Twice, when a gash had looked especially nasty, I’ve slipped antibiotic into her food for 8 or 9 days, and sure enough, it heals. Mischka, as a result has also been grieving. She wouldn’t eat for a couple of days and I was getting worried over her. She has now started eating, but, just as she always did, when I called them and Mischka showed up first for mealtime, she would wait a min. or two before eating, for Badgley to “join” her. ONce she’d start eating, she’d continually look up, crane her neck, looking for Badgley. Now it seems she is craning her neck more, higher looking towards the woods, waiting for Badgley to come sauntering out. It makes me sad for her, as well as me, that Badgley is gone. Mischka no longer has her bff to hang around with. There’s a part of me that wants to try and get Mischka into a carrier and take her to the vet, for shots, neutering, etc. The two parts to that are, 1. I can’t afford it, and 2. I did that several yrs. ago w/another feral cat that I’d fed, and as soon as I released her, I never saw her again. I don’t want the same to happen w/Mischka. So, for now, keep Mischka in your thoughts, she is still waiting for her sister and buddy, Badgley to return. In spite of Badgley having been gone now for 17 days.

Linda~

There’s a part of me that wants to try and get Mischka into a carrier and take her to the vet, for shots, neutering, etc. The two parts to that are, 1. I can’t afford it, and 2. I did that several yrs. ago w/another feral cat that I’d fed, and as soon as I released her, I never saw her again. I don’t want the same to happen w/Mischka. So, for now, keep Mischka in your thoughts, she is still waiting for her sister and buddy, Badgley to return. In spite of Badgley having been gone now for 17 days.

Awwwww prayers for Badgley and Mischka It is very hard for animals when they loose their companion. Much like us, huh?

As for the spaying of Mischka, do you have a low cost spay program there? While she may never stay around and become a house cat, she would be spayed and therefore unable to add to the overpopulation of feral cats. And who knows, maybe she would become a full fledged companion!

I can relate to your fear, though. When Hubs found Little Athena (not sure if you were around Musings then) on the wood pile, that was one of my fears as well – that we would work to get her healthy, and as soon as she did, she would be off……..ugh, I am tearing up already. I sure fell in love with that little cat…..

aw linda I feel for you. Big hug. I know what your going through. We two have feral cats running around. In city limits big no no. I hope if anything happen to Badgley it was fast and peaceful. Mischka I hope she gets better soon and finds serenity.

Moon,
My youngest has an iTouch. I want to seize it from her so badly..LOL
Hubby`s friend`s Daughter had one. She decided after having it for 6 months that she would rather have an iPhone. So he bought her one. So he sold us her iTouch for a rock bottom price. My Dd loves that she can go online with it.

Emily,
Can you just take them to the bowling alley without having the party there?
Have them bowl a few frames. Or do you have a $5 matinee in your town (like we do) where you can take them all to the movies?
Mini golf?
Laser tag?
ummm. I am just thinking of alternatives to the botched party that isnt your fault at all.

BoMo-
Sounds like a case of too many cooks in the kitchen.
Excessive amount of paper pushers.
Too much time on their hands.

And now today there is a question of how in the world TSA didn’t catch the fact that that woman who faked the kidnapping of herself and her daughter, bought plane tickets with fake ID.
TSA needs to do their job and lay off people who are simply trying to be conscientious.

Last I heard we haven’t come across any terrorists who are Scottish Nationals.

Thanks Heidi that actually made me feel better and calm down a little I decided that my house isn’t so messy (and hey I can hide the dishes in the oven, right and will have a WII bowling party . . . . it might be lame but that’s the idea I’ve got (unfortunately we live in rural Western WI and the bowling alley is the big place around) but hopefully it’ll be fun

Moon:
Oh, and no where in the application materials does it say not to send prior to the 90 day threshold.
Morons.
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Were you able to speak w/a live person in the follow up? Did they say why it wasn’t noted to not return pkg. prior to the 90 days!
Morons. ditto

Moon,

One word…..do you know where in the hell is Marcellus? Okay, that was several, but hey, if you’re an hour from sun city…..well….

Anyhoo, I am up to here with the world. Yup, everyone is on my bad side. Even Emily’s son’s friend’s mothers. Idiots! Is the party still on? I’d be sorely tempted to arrange for alternative plans, like let your son pick a friend and do something like bowling, movies, whatever and the rest of them can just lump it.

But what really has my knickers in a twist is graduation. The school is for “exceptional children.” I work one on one with an individual. Graduation was today. Let’s ignore the fact that practice was minimal and the order of events and what the graduates were to do changed every time. Let’s ignore the fact that every other one on one or teacher had a part in the event but because I’m ….not of the faith…..well, I wasn’t given a part at all. That’s fine, I can deal. I can keep things cool and running smoothly. No, let’s get through the whole process and then upon having the graduates exit the chapel, have them stop, stand and be manhandled by the masses. Yes, oh, lovely. Sure, some of the graduates could handle it, but the individual I work with? Less than an ideal situation. Hates crowds (there was a crush of people) hates having pictures taken (smile! Look here! smile!) and hates to be touched (I can’t count the number of morons that grabbed F, hug hug, squeeze, kiss, hug!) Oh, and the absolute worst thing? Hates changes in schedules and surprises. And all I could think was “this school is suppose to be geared toward these kids and their needs.” Over 90 percent of the student have an ASD diagnosis, downs syndrome is a distant second. What don’t they get? By the time it was all said and done I was trying desperately to keep my individual calm and clothed. I was able to sweep F off, get someplace quiet and gave F time to get it together. We were able to make a less than graceful entrance to the after party (I’m hoping it just looked like we were holding hands) and after receiving a few presents life was again somewhat good. Why is it always about what others want and not what’s best for the individual? (and yes, the irony is that the same line can be used on the Gosselins is not lost on me)

And then I read about the cat…..ugh………I held it together during graduation, but now? I think I need a tissue, a york peppermint patty and a nap.

This isn’t so much a rant as something I just want to say after popping hither and yon in the blogosphere, reading mostly sites controlled and populated by the Kool-Aid Krowd:

In RE: Aunt Jodi & Kevin (heretofore AJ&K) and the possiblity that they have come out now with their story because there is money to be made.

I may be going out on a limb here, especially after the third degree burn received after the PM fiasco went viral, but I am not ready to diss anything AJ&K have said for several reasons.
The splintered and choppy RadarOnLine interview—I seriously doubt that AJ&K knew ahead of time that the thing would be broken up as much as it has, and released in a bit of a salacious, teaser sort of way. ROL might have said they wouldn’t air it all in one fell swoop, and depending on how long an interview it actually was, AJ&K probably could have figured that one out on their own.

Reports in some of the media outlets regarding payment, either for the interviews and/or a tell-all book being shopped by Kevin–As is the industry standard in some cases, yes, people are paid for interviews. Not all outlets pay, but some do. We know ROL is paying Octomom. I for one don’t know that AJ&K got paid.
Did AJ&K accept payment for any of the interviews they have done?
I am not privvy to their bank account so I can’t tell you yea or nay on that one. All I know is that the timing of the story making the rounds concerning supposed renumeration certainly only came out when things were getting uber-ugly for Kate, which could lead one to think that perhaps the TLC/PR people felt the need to come up with a diversion. To take the heat off of Kate, their darling, and throw it in a different direction.

No one in the AJ&K camp has come forward to deny they are receiving or will receive compensation for their interviews—This is true as far as I can tell. It is the elephant in the middle of the room. I will say though, neither has anyone come out and denied that what AJ&K said is not true. Jon has never said they are lying. Not even Kate has said that. Which in itself is somewhat bizarre IMO.
Jon said if someone gave you $20,000 you’d tell stories too. But did he actually come out and use names? If he were so sure people had told lies, he couldn’t be held liable for naming names.
Soooooo, as AJ&K received more and more media face time, a random story catches on that they in fact, are being paid.

Now, as I said, this IS the elephant in the middle of the room, maybe even the neon colored, tie-dyed pachyderm, and if NOT true one would think that AJ&K or Julie would have made a statement to that effect. I can’t answer for why they have chosen to remain quiet about this. Me? I’d be yelling from the rooftops.

But the simple fact that they have said nothing doesn’t necessarily mean that they did in fact, take money for interviews.

I, for one, will reserve judgement until I hear it from them.

Jennifer A
Didn’t read last Friday’s rant, but you may want to hire a lawyer to help you fight the school system. The crappy school system in the town where I live tried to eliminate my nephew’s IEP. We got nowhere arguing with the principle and other school officials. We hired a lawyer who spoke the school administrators, from then on an IEP was no problem.
I don’t think that there are an alloted amount of IEP’s per school, and it is a law that a child, as long as he/she fits the criteria, MUST be provided with an IEP.
Hope this helps!

Ok I have another rant (is it ok to have two???) Anways – as some of you know hubby lives and works in UT and we live in WI (long story but the company he works for (when he’s working which is more lately) won’t direct deposit his check 1/2 into his account and 1/2 into mine and he’s sometimes not the most get up and go type (see one lovable cutiepie I do know of where I speak and so I sometimes don’t get the money I need when I need it (i.e. TODAY). The only way the company will do this is if I get some sort of legal seperation and then he has to pay me X ammount and then they would deposit it in my account on paydays. (This is the part that gets me feeling icky) I’m actually thinking about doing it. I can’t pay bills without knowing when I’m getting the money and he and I both agreed that we would do this “together” and that he would “step up and focus more, to do what needs to be done”. His words not mine (of course that was 10 months ago) but this is making me crazy and I don’t know what to do. . . . . OK I’m going to find something funny and next week all I will have are jokes (even if they are stupid

Our school district is opening a new elementary school in August and I am being moved to that school. We were told that all of our boxes would be moved for us on June 11th (last day of school is June 9th). Great, no problem. We got an email THIS AFTERNOON AT 3:30 saying that our moving date has been moved to this coming WEDNESDAY MORNING!!!! As in over a week early!!! My co-teacher and I haven’t packed at thing and WE STILL HAVE STUDENTS!!!!! Seriously! When exactly am I supposed to pack? Since when is moving our boxes to a school that ISN’T EVEN FINISHED YET a priority over teaching?!?!?! I am so livid I can’t stand it. So now I will be spending much of my weekend at school packing up my classroom and figuring out what I absolutely need to finish teaching because we were informed that whatever is not boxed up and ready to go on Wed. morning will be our responsibility to move. I am not shitting you. Sorry for all the ’screaming’ but I am beyond pissed right now.

irishmom3~

Just feel so tired today I could lay down on the floor and nap. Haven’t slept in months because the baby doesn’t think that’s important so I’m going to eat the rest of the pepperidge farm cookies to soothe myself.
Ok and I ate a pile of potato chips earlier today. God I have no shame!

ROFL! HUGS!

My kid was the same way. I became quite fond of Ben & Jerry’s Chunky Monkey (dare I say it?) one pint in a sitting at least 3 times a week, if not more………..

Hangs head in shame (burb!)

Boss man (he’s actually two levels up the food chain) pissed me off one time too many today. I’m in charge of updating a list at work and I HAVE TO BE SURE the work is done. Otherwise, Boss man’s boss would be all over me for closing an item out too soon. So I was questioning, via email, whether or not the work was complete. Boss man proceeded to undermine me by sending out another email saying something like there have been 11 emails (there haven’t been, try four) and you’re not believing him when he says it’s done. Well, durrrr, if the guy’s original response hadn’t been so %^&*(!@#!!! vague, I wouldn’t be asking. What I wanted to say to Boss man in an e-mail was, if you don’t want me to absolutely make sure the work is done, then you should get someone besides an EX-LAWYER to take care of it! I AM going to be ANAL about this, because if it’s not fixed, I say it is, and it breaks again, it will be MY ASS on the line, not YOURS. Of course, couldn’t say that at all.

Oh yeah, I was so annoyed that I took out this little cloth poppet I’d made and an ink pen. (I work from home some days, so I could do this without being observed.) I sketched in Boss man’s face and his name and then proceeded to stab the pen in the area of his heart over and over and over again. It’s so wrong, but it felt so right. I can’t even begin to help the vicious grin I have on my face as I’m writing. The guy is an asshat. My father is worried about me.

oh small fry ((((Big Hugs)))
I have been there before and will probably be again since my youngest is only 15yrs.

I did not go to the graduation! Yay me! Still feel like crap and now they want to know if I am still going to yard sales this morning. Oh course they want ME to drive because I have the Jeep GC. More room for our crap.
Some people only think of themselves, I swear. I have been ignoring her texts this morning. Let her think I am still sleeping. teehee

No rant from me this week-nothing but good goin’ on here!!
My son graduated high school last night, my favorite band (Indigenous) just got booked here on July 16th, AND The Gosselins are being investigated and on their way down! Hopefully the Cavs will beat the snot out of Orlando tonight and we’ll play again Monday AND advance to the NBA Finals. Life’s (temporarily) pretty darn good at this moment in time…:-)

ISSP, I think I’m in the early stages of TMJ. I haven’t been diagnosed but I cannot open my mouth all the way and my (right) ear usually hurts.

Crap. I know that most insurance says they will cover almost anything BUT TMJ.

Oh Snarkie, take it from someone who is in the thick of it: find out if your insurance covers massage therapy, the REAL kind, not the naughty stuff! lol My sis is a Registered Massage Therapist, and also suffers from TMJ (damn genetics!). My piddly insurance covers this even though she will treat me for free and has in the past. But now I have to go every few days because all of the docs poking and prodding is making it flare up. She has lots of patients that she has helped avoid surgery. It hurts a lot at first because the facial muscles are used to compensating for the crappy jaw placement (and teeth grinding). I think she is enjoying inflicting the pain far too much for my liking, but she swears it has nothing to do with the rotten way I treated her as a kid But seriously, get something done now. I had no idea it would develop into something so painful. Yes, the ear pain feels as if you must have a raging ear infection. Also, because the facial nerve runs down behind the ear and up to the cheek, there is a chance that the inflammation might cause a Bell’s Palsy at some point. Somehow your doc or dentist or orthodontist can put through treatment or other things through generic dental coverage. Oh and NO HEAT. Use ice instead if the pain is bad, along with lots of anti-inflammatories (like Advil). Sleep on your back and not in the fetal position with your chin on your chest. And don’t rest your chin in your hands (this is a hard habit for me to break). Stick your tongue between your teeth if you are stressed and tend to grind down or clench. (I am trying to think of all of the things sis tells me will help). Hope you don’t mind the unsolicited advice…I just know how awful the pain can get. I will get her to give me a paper with diagrams on how to do self massage on the facial trigger points (hurts like shit the first few times). Then I will scan it and send it to Moon who will get it to you, if that is OK.

I was diagnosed with TMJ many years ago. My doc told me to pad a tongue blade and put it in my mouth length-wise and bite down hard as often as I thought of it. Hurt like hell but eventually the pain stopped and I was able to open my mouth without pain. I also trained myself to NOT clamp my jaws while sleeping – I’d kind of stick my tongue between my teeth as I was falling asleep. I haven’t had any problem for a looooong time!

Such great help!! Thank you ladies!
I do grind and clench and I totally sleep in the fetal position!

Thanks, again. Advil has helped in the past.