Tuesday’s Troubles and Open Discussion~
Nov 30th, 2009 by BohemianMoon
Greetings all!
I have my own “Tuesday Trouble” in that I am having major oral surgery tomorrow and starting the first major phase of implants – 8 to be exact – so I really don’t expect to be around for a couple of days or so. I am posting this entry early as within the next couple of hours I hope to be in sleepy bye land after taking a doctor prescribed Valium. I have never taken one, so let’s hope it works because I am a wee bit nervous about tomorrow’s procedure and I do hope that it helps to put me to sleep, the insomniac I am.
Web Boy, however, will be keeping an eye on Musings and my email tonight and for the next few days so if there is any emergency with Musings, he will know and address it the best he can.
Please use this thread for any rants/issues you may want to talk about as well as anything in general, including the Gosselins, as it looks as though the last Gosselin thread has pretty much reached it “user friendly” limit; it is getting much too long.
I also have a “Word Game Wednesday” post ready to go and scheduled to publish on Wednesday. This one will go a lot faster than the last 
The last one did crack me up though. As always, thanks for playing!
Peace and good ~ “See” you all soon!
Moon
Moon,
Wishing you a very speedy procedure with positive thoughts that all will go well. That valium should put you in happy dream land very soon. Have a peaceful sleep.
Thinking of you Moon, sending you wishes for a good night’s sleep tonight (don’t be nervous!) and a speedy recovery over the next few days. Good excuse as any to eat lots of lots of ice cream =)
Hope you have an easy recovery. Trouble sleeping? Try anitvert. It’s an anti vertigo/motion sickness pill. Knocked me on my ass for a day.
Will post my drama tomorrow. It’s still developing.
I’ll be thinking of you tomorrow Moon, and hoping you have a speedy recovery and that the whole process goes smoothly and the results are just what you’re hoping for!
Take care!
Enjoy your Valium, Moon.
My reaction to it (Valium) was in my dreams – everything was way BIG and then everything was WAY small – really weird.
Wishing you a smooth surgery and quick recovery!
I’ll be praying for you, Moon. I hope you can feel peace through the procedure and after. I am a big baby when it comes to surgery so I can empathize with your nervousness. Just think of all the cool Musers that are thinking/praying for you
xoxo
Good luck and let the drugs take over. Then let the hubs and the son take it from there.
You know I’m pulling for you.
Moon,
Wishing you a speedy recovery. Hope you heal quickly so you can enjoy the holidays. Let the family take care of you while you heal. Hope your happy pills take over and let you rest for a few days. Take care of yourself ya hear! HUGZZZ
Oh Moon, you poor baby!
I’m one of those “scared of the dentist” types; everytime I go, I cry. It’s so embarrassing. Some left-over-from-childhood junk, I guess.
On the other hand, you lucky bum! Implants are expensive but SO worth it. I’m actually saving up now for at least two.
Good luck tomorrow; I’ll say some prayers for a great outcome and a painless recovery. You’ll be in my thoughts ’til I “hear” from you on here!
(p.s. If the Valium makes you feel a little depressed tomorrow, don’t worry – it’s a common reaction and will be gone by Wednesday. HUGS and happy thoughts.)
Web Boy~
If you are reading this, take extra good care of your mother for us. Remember liquids can’t be too hot or too cold and the trick with pain meds is not waiting too long between doses. Stay ahead because it can be impossible to beat once the pain takes hold. And being a martyr is soooooo 12th century. This blog is peppered with people who have mothered thousands of kids, parents, plants, pets, in-laws, and out-laws. We bandage, bake, broil, boil, steam, satee, sooth, salve, shake coctails , and sing on occasion. SO if you have any requests, suggestions, or questions just ask! And if you have the time please keep us updated.
All the best.
Oh Moon, you’re my hero! Prayers and hopes for smooth surgery tomorrow and a fast and easy healing. Eight procedures? Yuk. I’m w/alana. I don’t get freaked out at other surgeries or tests, (well, I am a bit nervous over that darn myelogram I keep putting off) but the oral surgerons, yeah, they make me a nervous wreck. Am anxious to hear how it goes. Sleep well and take it easy….hubs and Web boy will look after things.
Oh the best of luck Moon. I have a huge fear of dentists, so just reading this ups my anxiety. Although today I did book a dentist appointment for late January. Eek! Hope all goes well, during and after! *hugs*
Moon – thinking of you and hoping for a speedy and comfortable recovery. May you may be waited on hand and foot and surrounded by fur babies!! Best of luck!
Hope everything goes well tomorrow. Take it easy and see you back here in a couple of days.
I lurk here a lot. I love your site and I am sorry that you will be missing in action for a few days. But in a good cause, right? I am sending you healing thoughts and hopes and wishes for a painless procedure and a quick recovery.
Good luck Moon. I would say if you normally tolerate dental work pretty well the implants shouldn’t be a problem. I had an implant done a little over a year ago and it was really pretty routine – in fact I “preferred” it to the two root canals that followed in quick succession (no wonder I don’t have any money – an implant, two root canals, and three crowns within a two year period – sheesh). So I hope for you that the experience is smooth sailing (as smooth as major dental work goes, that is)!
Now for my rant. Damn. In all likelihood my current job is going to go away so I have been looking for work for quite some time. I knew when I moved to a smaller area (from 7 million people to about half a million people) that there would be fewer jobs but there is NOTHING. And I mean nothing. If I were a nurse it would be fine but I’m not. It would appear no one in this area ever needs an accountant at my skill level. On the rare occasion a job is advertised, they are looking for a CPA (which I am not) or they want someone happy to make minimum wage (again which I am not and if that’s all I can get I may as well wait until my higher paying job is gone). I have a degree and lots of experience but there is not a single thing here I appear to be qualified to do and I am starting to panic. My husband is self-employed and while work for him has thankfully been steady, those of you who are self-employed know that the inflow of cash can be, shall we say, sporadic. Not to mention I’m the one who provides the employer-sponsored health insurance. I suspect part of it has to do with my age (47) and experience (I’ve been told my resume makes me look like I will be too expensive for this area so no one bothers). Nothing I can do about my age and hell, some people lie on their resumes to pad their experience while I apparently have to consider how to make mine look like less than it is! And here I thought all these years I was doing the right things to advance in my so-called career.
Wow….earlier this evening while driving I was thinking about dental implants. Why???
I know everything will be just fine and wish you a speedy recovery.
Wanna hear all about it when you’re able!
Moon –
Well, I’m headed to the hospital AGAIN Tues. (almost definitely) with yet ANOTHER cellulitis infection, so I’ll be thinking of you while I’m waiting (and waiting and waiting) in the E.R. I hope your drugs make you nicely sleepy, and then when you’re awake you’ll have Hubs and Web Boy looking after you. Ice cream sounds like a good idea, and then maybe chicken soup? Lukewarm, though. Good luck with it all.
Oral surgery sucks big time. We will be thinking of you and wishing you a speedy recovery.
Extra fairydust your way!
Moon, wishing you a speedy and uncomplicated surgery and recovery!!
Moon,
Wishing you all good things and a swift recovery. Hugs.
Moon~ Wishing you a pain free surgery with great results. Anxious to hear the results and all about the surgery. I need oral surgery, but am too terrified.
{{{{ HUGS }}}}
Good luck doll ! Hope all goes well *hugs*
Moon, hoping all goes well.
Boy, the Today Show just cannot get away from the tabloid journalism. Today, the White House “crashers” appeared. Why give these people the attention they so desperately crave? Also, this couple’s lawyer made the statement to be ready “to start the bidding at six figures” to interview this couple. So, did NBC pay them? I wonder how much they paid Kate for her cry-fests.
Good Luck Moon. You will do fine. Web boy..make sure not to give her any straws to drink out of. They can give her dry sockets and that is NOT FUN.
I will be sending positive thoughts your way Moon.
Today is December 1st. Two weeks since my surgery and my last puff on a ciggy.
I see my surgeon today for my post op appointment. I am still dealing with nerve pain but it is all normal. It is going to take time for the nerves to heal..in the meantime..it sucks to be me some days.
When the pain is really bad, I just go to bed. May sound depressing but I would rather sleep it away then feel every single minute of it.
I hope he signs me up for PT soon. I want to get my back strengthened up. It is so weak. I can feel it when I walk up the stairs.
KF,
My oldest is having the hardest time finding work. Her job ended in the fall and she has not been able to find anything since. She has a home until she can get on her feet. I think that is what makes her feel better.
I hope you find something. And something that is comparable to what you are doing now. Best of Luck!
Moon,
I have 4 implants. Three at one time then one more a year later. Are you in the first stage? I had to wait 3 months for the gums to heal before the actual “teeth” were screwed on. I’m a wiggly, nervous type so I had to take 10 mg. valium which didn’t help much. I’m also allergic to novacain (sp) so my dentist had to use carbocain which only lasts 1/3 as long. I had to have shots every 15-20 minutes. Please don’t let this scare you. The results are well worth it.
Good Luck Moon! I’m definitely thinking of you and sending positive thoughts. You’ll have that million dollar smile soon.
And Heidi – continue healing….I totally understand. Hubs is now recovering at home from his back surgery and we just focus on being a bit better than the day before. Someday soon he may be able to put on his own socks, but his right foot is still numb and may always now be that way……time will tell on that one. The doctors are very pleased so far. I’m exhausted daily with dealing with everything, but progress forward is still progress.
Hugs to all. I’m hovering, but not always able to write a coherent sentence by the time I get to the computer.
Good luck and healing hugs to you Moon!
Nothing posted on docket.
From ROL:
Jon Gosselin’s court dates with TLC have been moved up, RadarOnline(dot)com has learned exclusively.
The warring parties had a status conference Tuesday morning and the judge moved the hearing for a preliminary junction from December 14 to December 10th.
The trial date was moved from late 2011 to April 19th, 2010.
The status conference took place in Montgomery County, Maryland where TLC is suing Jon for breach of contract in circuit court.
Re 32:
Fucking TLC musta had ROL on speed dial, eh?
Good thoughts and prayers heading your way Moon! I hope the surgery goes well and your recuperation is easy and pain free!
Good luck and fast healing Moon.
Sis –
So is now not a good time to send the holiday peanut brittle I made for you …?
Tam ~ Here’s a legal question for ya’ . Since they are supposed to be in court anytime now for the divorce, why doesn’t Jon have a lawyer for this? Is he going to represent himself ?
Also, I just watched the re-run of Dutch World and it made me wonder ….why in hell did I watch this show for 4 years? It drove me nuts. Listening to 8 screaming kids(sorry) but most of all ,their demanding ,childish mother !
Wow.. what a waste of my life.
Moon, all good thoughts coming your way. Come back quickly.
Gram, I totally agree with you about what a waste of time from watching that stupid family.
MOON,
Wishing you a speedy recovery. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Heal and Heal soon.
I’ve had the worse luck lately. I got my tooth pulled a week and a half ago. The first wasn’t too bad. When I woke up the next day it still hurt like hell which I found weird. Anyway the day went fine until I took my antibiotic pill and 30 minutes got sick as a dog. Wow the nausea was horrible along with hot flashes. Vomiting was the worse ever espeically with the pain from No tooth. I am a big baby when it comes to throwing up, I hate it as much as Dentist. Luckily I got better by my daughters bday and thanksgiving only to get a shitty head cold the day after Tday. I am worse now. I feel like shit. WTF!! Oh and what’s worse is my dog Jasmine has not been doing well at all. She has been acting so weird and unstable. She has been having accidents in her room during the nite which she has never done before. I can’t afford to take to the vet and even if I could i’m sick. Damn it. i am really worried about her.
I am thinking of you too, Moon and sending good energy. I know you’ll be fine and I wish you a speedy recovery. You’re gonna be beautiful!
I’ve already expressed this and I hope the message was passed on, but I thought I could do it here so that when you’re reading these you can hear it from me directly as well: I’ve been praying for you and I truly hope that your recovery is as stress-free and comfortable as possible.
I know that you’ve got some wonderful people to take care of you so now all you’ve got to do is rest, relax, and let yourself get back to feeling wonderful again!
Sending you a warm hug and best wishes for a speedy recovery, Moon. Take it easy.
Miss Daisy ~ I am so glad you were finally able to check in, as I was worried about you and your husband. Am so glad everything went well with his surgery.
Stay strong and don’t forget to take care of yourself too ! So far this midwest winter has been on your side and we’ve been really lucky.
Hey Moon-
Thinking about you (and your Valium, you lucky dog, you!) and wishing you a speedy recovery.
You are lucky to have two such attentive men watching over you!!
Hi, Moon,
I hope your surgery goes quickly and without a hitch. May you be comfortable, and feel back-to-normal soon.
Okay. I don’t post here very often, but since I happened into an “air -your-gripes” posting, here goes.
This year has been a struggle, multiple illnesses for myself (six weeks off with pneumonia at the start of the year), followed by other viruses, vertigo this fall, etc. My husband and son have been sick, too, and my father-in-law is in the end stages of liver cancer. He went to hospice and was not expected to live more than a day or two, but he improved in hospice care to the extent that he went home yesterday. My mother-in-law is his caregiver most of the time, but she wants to go to her part-time job to get away from him (and to fund all her renovation projects–their home is always having something perfectly good replaced–most recently the kitchen and breakfast nook, and now both decks) and she wants my husband (her only son) to be at her beck and call. He has been quietly enduring multiple complaining phone calls from both my MIL and FIL every day for the last two or so years. Yesterday I think we had eight calls from MIL. If he doesn’t take FIL’s calls immediately at work, FIL says that he will be probably be dead by the next time my hubby calls him back, etc. Emotionally abusive old fart. It got to the point where my husband was suffering from constant tachycardia (fast heart rate) and pvc’s (irregular heart beats) to the extent that he has been off work and under medical care for over two months. I don’t know how much longer I can support our family alone. My husband had some temporary short-term disability kick in after the first month, but we don’t know if that will continue. The insurance carrier is dithering on the issue, and the doctor’s office has been less than competent in sending information through the system. I think my MIL is counting on my husband being there to care for dad, but he really needs to get well and return to work before they decide he is a liability and replace him. The job he has is pretty much perfect for him skill-wise and he makes an okay amount of money (not that much, but it’s better than a kick in the head).
My son is failing in half his classes in his senior year of a very expensive private high school that he has attended since freshman year. He says he doesn’t like his teachers and doesn’t want to “work for them”. We tried desperately to have him transferred to the school his buddies attend, but we live in another city and the city we live in refused to release him for transfer, even though he has never attended that school, and it was never part of the equation. (We researched our town school prior to making this decision—made an appointment with the registrar, went in with a page and a half of hand-written questions, toured the campus, reviewed the curriculum, and found it was not for us). We wrote letters, talked to all three schools about this, consulted an attorney, appeared before the school board, etc. all to no avail. It was as though they couldn’t even hear us. I am worried he will not graduate, and he wants to move out and live in an apartment with his buddies the moment he turns 18. This would be before the end of the school year.
My MIL keeps bitching that if he doesn’t do well in school, all the money we have spent on our son’s education is wasted. I want so badly to tell her that she doesn’t know what she is talking about. That “waste” is gutting and redoing your entire kitchen and nook when there is nothing wrong with it. (They had beautiful cabinetry and tilework) That redoing your decks in front and back last year (and having my hubby take a day off work to negotiate with the company that did the work when they screwed up), and then ripping it out this year to put in all flagstone patio areas, is wasting money, etc., but I don’t, because I do not want to drive a wedge in this relationship for my son and husband. I believe that we have done the best we knew how to do for our son, and that the beautiful school we sent him to, learning service to each other and the community, work ethic, etc. have shaped him as a human being, and that is no waste.
Anyway. Sorry for the rant. Thanks for reading, if you have gotten this far.
Have a nice holiday season, and Moon, hope this procedure is easy for you, and that you are very happy with it.
Moon,
I will be thinking of you and sending you positive energy. The valium will be nice – so enjoy it. Make sure you take the pain meds on time and never deviate from the time frame or else you will feel it later. I am sure Web Boy will do a fine job – he is a fine young man, Moon. Hear that, Web Boy? We love you, too!!! Just take it easy, Moon, and as a previous poster suggested, just let Hubs and Web Boy do your thinking for you for the next couple of days.
ugh, MILs. We are planning a visit to the kids/grandkids at the end of the month. Just tentative dates, nothing set in stone. DH let’s it drop that his mom wants to see my grandchildren, her great-grandchildren. I immediately get hostile. That woman gets my back up faster than a Cate hairstyle. I snap all over him hitting such high points as “my mom hasn’t seen the baby yet and he’s 8 months!” (mom is old, decrepit and has a body that is not condusive to airline travel or long car rides) and “it’s a pity she ignores our other children!” (she’ll bitch and moan that the kids don’t call her ever, but she calls my one child (with the kids) all the time.) I conclude that she can go where she wants, I can’t stop her but DH adds the final caveat, she wants to visit when WE will be there. WTF? I hit the roof. Oh, hell no! HELL. NO. And I flash back to the last joint visit in which she invited some old friends who happened to live in the area (3 hours away) over and we proceeded to waste a day with those two sitting around doing nothing. Oh, and the old friends wanted to take my MIL out to lunch, but she wouldn’t hear of it (no, I would not be that lucky to get a break from her) So, no I really really don’t want to spend any of my precious time with the world’s cutest grandbabies with a nasty manipulative witch who can’t keep her mouth shut for one second. Huge fight ensued between me and DH, lots of yelling on my part. I upset the cat who ultimately tried to jump into a tall chair, failed and brought the chair down on herself. Ugh! Yes, it was ugly ugly ugly and I committed one of the big no no’s by dredging up every sin that woman has committed (I left out the time she told the world I needed a padded bra) beginning with her lack of attending any of my children’s high school graduations, visiting our home within the last 12 years (closer to 13) and really hitting how she tried to get a beach vacation with my child/grandchildren without my husband or I (his sister saved the day by cluing us in but it left my other kids out in the cold and unable to come also). DH is stuck in the middle, and I realize he doesn’t feel comfortable with confrontations. Hell, a mack truck can’t stop her. So, I am hoping that he will be able to let her know that “our time with the grandchildren is very limited, and while this may seem selfish, we really would like to visit with just them.” Lather, rinse, repeat.
What will happen? One of two things. One, she’ll come anyway. She’ll go to my kid and say she wants to visit and being sweet, my kid will say “sure!” or Two, she’ll stay away, but bitch about me to all and sundry. Yes, this is exactly what she’ll say “I really wanted to see my greatgrandchildren. They are so cute, but Four has issues and can’t seem to share. I hope I don’t die before I can see them again.” Oh wait, I have the third ploy. Since this year I am determined that ALL my children get to vacay together we’re trying to pick a central local for all. Now I’m sure my MIL will say “well, since I wasn’t able to visit with you and see the babies, you HAVE to come to the beach!” (it’s just 10 to 18 hours away for us by car or a two stop flight with a car rental and an hours drive to boot)
Sorry to vent so. I’m just tired of my MIL and her egocentric, controlling view of the world. I wish she would back off, quit playing favorites and think about someone else for a change.
Not really a trouble but:
Why is it, to get the extra bedroom, which is normally used entirely for storage, ( the queen size bed is laying up on a long end against a wall!) set up for guests I have ended up making a bigger mess in the living room/entry hall, than the bedroom ever was!!
Geez!
It doesn’t seem right somehow.
Miss Daisy,
I am dealing with the foot numbness but it comes and goes. For me, that is part of the healing process. He may not have permanent foot numbness.
Yeah, I have to wear slippers everywhere. I cannot get socks on either.
I had my post op visit and Dr says that I am healing 3 weeks ahead of schedule. I have start this ascending pain/numbness/healing already and that should have not started yet. So I am a fast healer I guess.
Gave me some pills so I can sleep. Very hard to turn in bed.
Lots of hope and gentle hugs from one achy back to another Miss Daisy!
Gram123 – yes, the winter has truly been a blessing so far…..thank you. I have Christmas decorations up inside to help in the mental game of recovery as well – only the floor that he is on though. Hubs is upset that he can’t get the outside decorations up and I told him it didn’t matter, our neighbors have enough to light the whole neighborhood anyway and our utility bill will be less this holiday season. Next year, he can be Clark Griswold.
Oh, and we are located in the northwest quadrant of our Midwestern state. Thank you for your kind words. It does help and I’m just taking it all one day at a time or in his case, one step at a time.
Heidi – thank you for a view of the future and congratulations on your recovery. I am very happy for you. Hubs is kind of down right now about the foot. He has agreed to use a walking stick (not a cane as he says) so Son #1 has ordered one with a gear shifter ball thing on the top for a more whimsical touch. Hubs has a 1975 Trans Am (original owner) and LOVES his car, so we are hoping that the walking stick not a cane will have some personal appeal. We’re just trying to deal with everything as it happens one thing at a time. His post op appointment is next week.
Yep. Ole Katie must be pissed all the attention has shifted to Tiger Woods and White House Party Crasher Attention Whores. Even Hailey’s stupid Twitters can’t upstage these goings on.
Random note-as ‘we’ were recently talking about Meredith Baxter Birney a few threads back, she just came out as a lesbian on The Today Show. ROL has story, of course.
Daisy,
Did his surgeon say that the foot numbness may be permanent?
The numbness on my foot (right side) comes and goes. I feel it more near my pinkie toe and that side of the foot then the other. I have feeling in the foot though.
I hope that all will be well with him. I know how he feels. Cabin fever is the absolute worse for me right now. I was told that I am not allowed to go Christmas shopping, I have not cooked a meal in two weeks, I cannot clean…wait..this is actually sounding kinda nice..LOL
I hope that he gets more feeling in his foot so that he will be able to be more mobile. It has only been a short time since his surgery (as it has been for mine).
The lights outside will be done next year! It will drive him nuts (like I am doing..LOL) but the longer he rests his back, the better the surgery will take!
I have to walk baby steps up the stairs.. Once i go upstairs at night..that is it until morning.
His foot may not be gone all together yet. Lets hope it is taking those nerves a little longer to come alive!
Re: the whole Tiger Woods fiasco: Does anyone else think that someone is once again paying ROL to take Tiger down?
It seems like they are going all “Jon Gosselin” on Tiger right now.
(not that I condone his behavior …but the pure volume of Tiger stories on ROL is suspect)
Judy, Tiger probably just became Jon’s favorite person.
With all the $$ Tiger has, I’m surprised he’s not paying ROL to STFU. Oh well, Tig. Should have kept your putter in your pants or at least on your own golf course.
Stupid, stupid, stupid.
Tam, Bwahaaaahaaaa! “putter in his pants” Bwahaaahaaaahaaa!!!
I totally needed that laugh …thanks!
#53 judy
Good one….Going all “Jon Gosselin”on tiger right now. LMAO.
#54 Tam
“Putter in his pants.” Oh my god that was funny!
This is” Witty Wednesday” with you two funny ladies.
Ah. ROL couldn’t stay away from Jon. Someone needs to take a set of clubs to Lohan’s dome:
RADAR EXCLUSIVE: Michael Lohan Deposed In Jon Gosselin Lawsuit, Reveals Business Deals
Jon Gosselin’s former best buddy Michael Lohan gave what could be a highly damaging deposition Wednesday morning in TLC’s lawsuit against the former Jon & Kate Plus 8 star, RadarOnlne.com is reporting exclusively.
The two-and-a-half hour deposition took place in New York City.
In an exclusive interview with Lohan after the deposition, he told RadarOnline.com, “They asked questions regarding my involvement on a business level with Jon Gosselin; deals that were negotiated; transactions that did occur and basically my deal with Michael Heller.
“I think the attorneys from Williams & Connolly were very thorough,” Lohan said of the TLC legal team. “I think they did a great job. They asked the appropriate questions and they got the answers they wanted. I think they have a very, very strong case, one that I definitely don’t think they’ll lose. So good luck to Jon.”
TLC is suing Gosselin for breach of contract. Gosselin and Lohan had once planned to do a reality TV show called The Divorced Dads Club. That project and others Lohan was negotiating would have been a violation of Gosselin’s exclusivity provision in his contract with TLC, the cable net has asserted.
Lohan also told RadarOnline.com that Jon had better beware of what his ex-girlfriend Hailey Glassman may say when she is deposed in the case. Hailey’s attorney, he said, “has a pretty powerful file, I understand.”
Williams & Connolly is one of the best law firms in the country and is pursuing the case against Jon with its typical aggression. Paul Gaffney, a partner in the firm, is the lead attorney.
Michael Lohan is scum. I think he and Kate Gosselin would make a great couple. They both want and expect everyone else to support them.
I’d like to borrow Tigers “putter” and wack em” both .
Anna—wow, you’ve got a lot on your plate right now. I’m sorry.
Let me start by saying this…
Neither you nor your husband will be of any help to anyone if you don’t take care of yourselves first. I ended up in the ER twice in Sept. with constant tacchycardia due to stress (my mom…long, long story) and the cardiologist told me that I had reached my “tipping point” and that it was time to take care of myself first. It was the best thing I’ve done in a long time. Sometimes I think you just need someone else to tell you that it’s OK to put yourself first. It’s hard when you’re expected to be everything to everybody, I know, but you are just as important as everyone else and your needs matter!!! There are places out there that can help your MIL/FIL. Have you tried respit care?
I wish I had some better words of great wisdom for you. All I can offer you is some heartfelt sympathy and very strong wishes that things will get better for you and your family very soon.
Please keep us posted on how you’re doing!
~CelloLady
P.S. Moon, glad to hear your surgery went well! Wishing you a speedy recovery.
Gram, I was JUST coming here to post that!!! Michael and Kate sittin in a tree E-X-P-L-O-I-T!
Those two are made for each other.
If it weren’t for the 8 children involved, I would support a reality show titled ” Michael and Kate …life after Jon”
So, does Jon’s lawyer get to cross exam these witnesses at some point?
And how does Michael Lohan know what kind of “evidence” Hailey has?
Dunwoody Mom~ Probably because they both have weekly paychecks coming in from TLC and Radar.
The more they talk, (or lie) the more money they make, so they are in competition with each other.
What else do either one of them do for money? Neither one has ever earned honest money with a real job.
Someone else has always supported them both !
Bet all of Jon’s skanks are wishing they got in on the Tiger Express instead of ‘lowly’ Jon Gosselin. Cha-ching!
#57Tam
TLC is suing Gosselin for breach of contract. Gosselin and Lohan had once planned to do a reality TV show called The Divorced Dads Club. That project and others Lohan was negotiating would have been a violation of Gosselin’s exclusivity provision in his contract with TLC, the cable net has asserted.
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While I know this is all water under the bridge, out of curiousity, IF Jon had stopped the show (because of the kids) as soon as the divorce became public, would that have made the contract null and void? Isn’t it somewhere in the contract that if any of them want off of the show, then that’s it, the show is over?
#65 Linda-
While I know this is all water under the bridge, out of curiousity, IF Jon had stopped the show (because of the kids) as soon as the divorce became public, would that have made the contract null and void? Isn’t it somewhere in the contract that if any of them want off of the show, then that’s it, the show is over?
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Could that have been yet another lie from Kate?
As I am going this afternoon for my annual mammogram I thought of this (for those of you who haven’t seen it, it’s hysterical, for those who have, I think another reading is worthwhile):
Mammograms
Many women are afraid of their first mammogram, but there
is no need to worry. By taking a few minutes each day for a
week preceding the exam and doing the following exercises,
you will be totally prepared for the test and best of all,
you can do these simple exercises right in and around your
home.
EXERCISE ONE:
Open your refrigerator door and insert one breast in door.
Shut the door as hard as possible and lean on the door for
good measure. Hold that position for five seconds. Repeat again in case the first time wasn’t effective enough.
EXERCISE TWO:
Visit your garage at 3AM when the temperature of the
cement floor is just perfect. Take off all your clothes and
lie comfortably on the floor with one breast wedged under
the rear tire of the car. Ask a friend to slowly back the
car up until your breast is sufficiently flattened and
chilled. Turn over and repeat with the other breast.
EXERCISE THREE:
Freeze two metal bookends overnight. Strip to the waist.
Invite a stranger into the room. Press the bookends against
one of your breasts. Smash the bookends together as hard as you can. Set up an appointment with the stranger to meet next year and do it again.
YOU ARE TOTALLY PREPARED!
Anna, now that cello lady has ‘opened’ up sharing w/you, I’d like to speak. I have started 3 comments to you and have erased them. I think it’s because I wasn’t sure how to put into words, what I wanted to say. Everytime I start to type something, I get angrier and angrier w/your inlaws. I wanted to say how inconsiderate I think that is, of your MIL and FIL to do ‘that’ to their son. Would it be acceptable/appropriate if you spoke w/each of them and somewhat explained what’s going on w/your hubs? Sorry, but MIL needs to be at the hospital w/FIL, attending to his needs, and ‘buggin’ her son, to take care of her husband. I know he’s your hubs dad, but since mom is alive and healthy apparently, then in my book, the responsibility falls to her! I’d probably not be able to deal with “this” situation, without getting mad.
So, don’t listen to me, go with Cello Ladies’ advice! LOL
#66 Tam
Of course, why didn’t I think of that!
Kate’s probably ready to play ‘choke a bitch’:
http://www.coastreporte.net/article/GB/20091201/CP05/312019906/-1/SECHELT/after-crashing-white-house-will-salahi-be-uninvited-from-housewives&template=cpArt
After crashing White House, will Salahi be uninvited from ‘Housewives of D.C.’?
December 1, 2009
Frazier Moore, THE ASSOCIATED PRESS
NEW YORK – Aspiring reality-TV star Michaele Salahi and her polo-playing husband, Tareq, made a debut of sorts Tuesday morning, stepping in to fill the role of TV’s reigning fun couple, lately vacated by the Gosselins when “Jon&Kate Plus 8″ came to an end.
From an unspecified Washington sitting room (shades of the couch confessionals on “Jon&Kate”!), the Salahis spoke with “Today” host Matt Lauer, up in New York.
They were short on hard facts, but solemn and insistent that they weren’t the White House party crashers everybody thinks they are.
Theirs was stark testimony, aimed at softening public opinion rock-hardened against them.
Maybe it was also a desperate pitch to keep Michaele Salahi in the running for Bravo’s upcoming reality show, “The Real Housewives of D.C.” (Was the fact that they appeared on NBC, a sister network of Bravo, more than coincidence? Absolutely not, say Bravo’s Johanna Fuentes and NBC News’ Megan Kopf.)
For the interview, Tareq, fleshy with an unctuous air, and Michaele, blond and razor-thin, were both garbed in sedate black.
They agreed that the uproar over their alleged invasion of the White House for a state dinner last week has been “devastating” to them.
“Our lives have been destroyed,” Michaele declared.
Exhibiting a much different persona than the outrageous social gadfly who would fit into a “Housewives of D.C.” sisterhood, she, with her husband, landed several minutes of the TV face-time she apparently craves.
And there’s likely an encore in sight: Tareq Salahi promised Lauer the couple would visit him in person on the program “in the next several days” with proof in hand that they were indeed invited guests at the White House.
“We look forward to having you here,” said Lauer warmly.
Will Bravo be so welcoming?
Bravo says no decisions have been made on who will make the final cut on “The Housewives of D.C.”
But for weeks, Salahi has been bird-dogged by a camera crew from the company producing the show. She was filmed as recently as last Tuesday during her preparations for the state dinner she and her husband would attend hours later.
Did the Salahis crash that White House party?
“There isn’t anyone that would have the audacity or the poor behaviour to do that,” she told Lauer.
The White House, which denies the Salahis had an invitation, would vigorously disagree with her, as would most anybody else within earshot.
At the moment, top-level investigations are beginning, the Secret Service is red-faced, and President Barack Obama and first lady Michelle Obama are reportedly pretty steamed. Until evidence proves otherwise, it seems that the leader of the free world was punk’d right where he lives – the world’s most famous residence – while the Salahis made monkeys of the people sworn to keep the First Family safe.
Since then, the Salahis have become what they apparently longed to be – household names – though “world’s most famous gate crashers” isn’t the way they would have chosen.
Maybe they should have been careful what they wished for.
They are being hounded by the press and paparazzi, they told Lauer. In particular, said Tareq Salahi, blind to its irony, “Our homes have been invaded.”
However useful in exposing White House security lapses, the Salahis shouldn’t expect a thank-you note from the Secret Service. On the contrary, they may have made some powerful Beltway enemies, going all the way to the top. (Surely Richard Nixon isn’t the only president to keep an Enemies List, and he put names on it for far less than the Salahis’ presumed offence.)
Should they be surprised if their tax returns are audited for the foreseeable future? Should they brace themselves for protracted delays at airport security and resign themselves to a mysterious van routinely parked outside their house? (For anyone who has ever read a spy novel or thriller, the imagination soars.)
Meanwhile, would a cable network whose hydra-headed corporate parent counts on Washington for such things as favourable regulation and fat defence contracts want to tie itself to a “D.C. housewife” who royally ticked off the feds?
Already, some lawmakers have asked that criminal charges be brought against the Salahis. Maybe they’ll be prosecuted. Maybe they won’t.
Either way, how long will it be before Bravo unveils the D.C. housewives, with Michaele Salahi among the uninvited? Could be, she’s done the near-impossible in reality TV: crossed the line from attention-getter on a grand scale, to just not worth the trouble.
#45 Anna – now that a few of my fellow Musers have opined on your situation, I’m going to throw my two cents into the pot just for the heck of it. (And being known as the “Judgemental” one in my family doesn’t hurt either!)
From what you’ve written, you have two needy, selfish (MIL), afraid (terminal FIL) and demanding inlaws who apparently don’t care that they’ve driven their son into ill health.
These situations (I know, I cared for both parents until they passed) create a domino effect within the family.
Your husband, for whatever reason, won’t stand up to either one of them. The stress has got to be affecting your marriage, and as an outsider, is also affecting your son. He’s acting out, but you’ve done what you can for him. When he turns 18, he’s legal to move out. He’ll have to live with his decisions.
As for your MIL’s carping on it – I’d flat out tell her to shut up and deal with her own problems. (All that project refurbishing nonsense? It’s just a distraction to avoid coping with her real problems – a terminal husband fits that bill.)
I understand that you don’t want to drive a wedge in the family – but that horse has already left the barn. If your husband won’t speak up, then you should – to hell with hurting feelings. With folks like these, the subtle approach is a waste of time. A sledgehammer response is more effective.
And if you don’t have caller ID on your phones, now would be a good time to get it – along with announcing to your inlaws that only a few calls a day will be allowed. When they go over the limit, that’s when you don’t pick up. Period.
Situations like this are ugly – the stress can be a killer – and you don’t want to wake up one day and find your life destroyed by two people who used you up for their own selfish purposes.
And that’s my totally judgemental two cents worth.
Speaking of wanting to ‘choke a bitch’…
From ROL (where else?)
EXCLUSIVE: Kate Major Tells TLC Lawyers Jon Gosselin Wanted To Be Motorcycle King
Posted on Dec 02, 2009 @ 05:48PM
Kate Major was deposed Wednesday in TLC’s lawsuit against Jon Gosselin and her testimony against the former Jon & Kate Plus 8 star was explosive. Jon planned to endorse a line of motorcycles as well as kids’ clothes and furniture, Major told RadarOnline.com exclusively
“I was supposed to be his assistant as well as work with him on a book and other endorsements such as a motorcycle line and a kids clothing line, and kids’ stackable furniture,” Kate told us she revealed to the TLC attorneys.
Major told RadarOnline.com that Gosselin never mentioned to her how his TLC contract was going to fit into all this. “His contract with TLC never came up,” Major said. “It didn’t seem to concern him.”
The attorneys for TLC from the top law firm of Williams & Connolly asked Kate about Jon’s plans to employ her. “He promised he would, or else I wouldn’t have resigned from my job,” Kate added.
Major also revealed that Jon told her to resign from her job at Star magazine and work for him at a salary that would be more than she’d been making.
Kate said the TLC attorneys also asked about her personal relationship with Jon. “My lawyer intervened so I didn’t have to answer any of that,” she said.
Tam: I think Meredith ‘heard’ us talking about her and wanted to give a “hey” to her girls! Ha ha. Pat (the dirty disher) has some old “Briget Loves Bernie” videos. Very funny.
Z On TV has an article on the Salahi’s and references Kate in how the public is getting fed up with ‘reality tv’ players and their shenanigans:
http://weblogs.baltimoresun.com/entertainment/zontv/2009/12/michaele_tareq_salahi_today_sh.html#more
(Excerpts)
‘Michaele Salahi is a candidate for a a reality TV series, “Housewives of Washington,” and the couple’s behavior at the White House has sparked outrage not just toward them but toward reality TV shows in general insofar as they encourage outrageous behavior from such wannabes. It looks like this duo could be the unlucky pair that bears the brunt of a growing revulsion toward desperate characters like the parents of the so-called “Balloon Boy” or Jon & Kate Gosselin, who have let cameras steal their children’s privacy. That could make for a most welcome and long overdue cultural tipping point.’
‘And then, the couple became truly over-the-top pathetic, with Tareq saying, he is “saddened” by the way the media is reporting their story. Sounding like Kate Gosselin, of the late reality TV series, “Jon & Kate Plus 8,” he complained that they have been “mischaracterized through the media and other paparazzi forums.”
Unbelievable. This couple commits outrageous acts to attract attention, and then complains about the “paparazzi invading” their home.
“Our lives have been destroyed,” Michaele said. “Everything we’ve worked for has been destroyed. for me, Matt, that’s 44 years, just destroyed.”
Wouldn’t it be nice if these two fools defined the limit in what the public is willing to stomach from this class of desperate reality TV show wannabes? Tying up law enforcement folks in Denver with a hoax that your kid is in a balloon is bad enough. But maybe the fact that this desperate Salahi couple clearly sees the Black Congressional Caucus and the White House as nothing but backdrops for their self-absorbed and delusional schemes might just get folks to step back and take a hard look at how reality TV is warping the culture. Let’s hope so.
I hope so.’
68Linda
Anna – “and ‘buggin’ her son” should read: “NOT ‘buggin’ her son.”
i just found out that my best friend is moving far away and i am really upset about it
The Insider on Thursday will be talking about Kate pre-famewhore days. Apparently The Star is doing what appears to be an unflattering story on her (ex-boyfriends etc.) this week.
Comment #71
“and as an outsider” should read “and as I see it as an outsider”
Sorry!
#72Tam
The attorneys for TLC from the top law firm of Williams & Connolly asked Kate about Jon’s plans to employ her. “He promised he would, or else I wouldn’t have resigned from my job,” Kate added.
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I swear, it’s dumb, gullible broads like this, along w/all the sheeple types, who give women a bad name!!
#52 – Heidi -
Hubs’ foot has been numb since before the surgery and the surgeon has mentioned that it could be permanent. It is just too soon to tell and one can’t determine the amount of nerve damage only 8 days post surgery. We just (no pun intended) keep putting one foot in front of the other. He IS taller than before, walks straighter and has been able to stretch out the time between drugs which to me are all positive, but being a guy who is normally a very active guy as a rule, this is a very trying situation for him. Hubs is definitely not one to meditate or take the time to reflect…..even just typing that thought makes me smile. One day at a time…..one day at a time……one day at a time……
And thank you Heidi – you are an inspiration to our household right now.
To the person worried about losing her job and in accounting but not CPA… I had a friend in the same boat. While you are waiting for your job to end, hang out your own shingle. Offer your bookkeeping services, start your own business, you can do it! Don’t be afraid! There are always people looking for that sort of thing but don’t want to hire a full time employee. GOOD LUCK!
Web Boy ~ how’s Moon doing today? I hope that she’s feeling better and that you’re still taking great care of her. I bet that she loved that you decorated for her, now that you’re done at your house, can you come to Chicago and do mine? Moon ~ take care and know that you have tons of people thinking and sending good thoughts to you.
In reference to all these people testifying against Jon, you know the pillars of our society ~ scumbag dad of the year michael lohan and kate majors, who quit her job before all this went down~ when i was young i used to dream that i was an only child and my parents were king and queen of somewhere. i came from a family of 8 and i too used to have dreams.. jon gosselin probably said alot of crap once the ice queen let him go, but does that really make it a lawsuit, doesn’t everyone in life talk about their dreams and wishes. i can’t believe that the scumbag michael lohan testified against jon. not defending jon, but that’s really scaping the bottom of the barrel. i hope that a judge is smart enough to see beyond all the leeches that jon associated with and realize that deep down, he does care about his kids. unfortunately, i think that he’s the better of the two parents.
Was reading a story about Tiger and ran across this article on Jon.
bettyconfidential.com/ar/ld/a/Jon-Gosselin-and-Hailey-Glassman-Still-Together.html
#84 Linda ~
This is what TMZ is saying about Jon Gosselin with a vid clip:
Jon Gosselin — In the Red?
Peace out Hailey Whatshername — because Jon Gosselin’s been running around D.C. for the past two days with a new chick … and she’s a ginger.
Where Jon gets into his car with a girl with long red hair. He just can’t stay away from the girls, can he? How long has it been since he’s supposedly seen Hailey? Geez, Jon – horney much?
So, getting into a car with a girl makes jon “horney” ?
If so, there’s a world full of horney people…
WTF?! I just read this on the Lillian Glass blog. Do you believe this to be true as well? Maybe I’m too cynical…
TABLOIDS OF TODAY EMPLOY EXCELLENT INVESTIGATORS AND TOP NOTCH JOURNALISTS
While some tabloids may perhaps sensationalize a headline or two, in order to peak your curiosity and make you pick them up when you are in line at the grocery store, I can assure you that those days of bold faced tabloid lies are over. It’s way too expensive to make anything up. They are all lawyered up to the hilt and they check and recheck facts. The Enquirer is no longer the tabloid of yester year where two headed flying alien babies with sharp teeth and pointed ears were on the cover. Now, they can hold their own with any major publication.
I don’t find Lillian Glass to be very reputable herself. I think she is just trying to justify her appearances on the tabloid tv shows she shows up on.
I agree. IMO there’s a lot of flamboyant “over the top” drama in her analysis of different people. It diminishes her observations and professionalism.
Daisy,
I will keep checking on Tuesdays and Fridays to see what you have to say about how he is doing.
I only have to take the meds at night now but not during the day.
You want to know what I really want to do? I want to be able to stretch.
That big cat like stretch that some do in the morning..feels so good. I am afraid to and it sucks..because I really want to..LOL
90itsaboutthekids
I agree. IMO there’s a lot of flamboyant “over the top” drama in her analysis of different people. It diminishes her observations and professionalism. ” in order to peak your curiosity”
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You can tell it’s Lillian’s work… she misused the work “peak”. It should be “pique” your curiosity. Does she even have a degree??? Her spelling and misuse of the English vocabulary/language, along w/her spelling and lousy typing skills, is atrocious for someone in her field! I saw her on Dr. Phil the other day and they put her to a ‘test’. She was to interview 2 women and determine which one really was a production asst. for the show and which was the fake. Serious, if you had a grain of reasoning skills, you could pick the fake after she answered one question. So she gets this big applause for choosing the correct one?? IMO, she’s just another ’snake oil’ salesman pitching her crapola.
Dunwoody Mom and itsaboutthekids,
You were both right in calling me on my statement about Jon. I was wrong. I meant and should have written that I thought Jon was careless being photographed with an attractive female which put his actions in question. It is unfair that he is judged by appearances and associations as he has every right to be with whomever he chooses.
E Online has a new article about Jon. Seems as if Jon Gosselin had Super Bowl plans squashed by TLC .
What else is new ? TLC just doesn’t want him earning a dime, but they are spending their time, money, reputation ( didn’t know they had one left) on their star pupil Kate Gosselin ! What idiots they all are. They deserve Kate. Hope she tags their asses for eternity.
I don’t ‘get’ why TLC has anymore hold on this family? They’ve already sued Jon, what more can they do? How can they squash Super Bowl plans, I just don’t get it.
#93 Steph
Let’s be realistic and honest here, your first assumption was most likely correct!
Preesi’s scans are up. Thanks, Preesi!
Only two this week, US and Star. Poor Kate really ‘worked’ her butt off fixing Thanksgiving dinner for her kids and Steve’s family, including his inlaws ! (truck full of food pulled up to the front door & her hard work was opening it)
cj,
Did you see in US article Kate ‘allegedly’ went to visit her parents? That I doubt. Btw, the cook that she is had Thanksgiving catered. Allegedly.
Tam ~ Right ! After all these years, Kate is mending fences with her parents. Gag me. Since ROL has the paps taking pictures of every important event in her life, why aren’t we seeing pictures of Kate & parents embracing in the front yard? Ya know, cuz wouldn’t that be a really important thing for the fans to witness? Sweet Katie going back to her roots. If I was her mother and she suddenly showed up at the door, I’d be asking … WHAT do you WANT. And, BTW, where are my grandkids?
Did you catch the line about Steve’s inlaws staying in Jon’s apartment?
If I were Kate’s parents and she showed up now, I’d tell her to get the hell off of my doorstep.
Yes, I did see that about Steve’s in-laws. Did they fly in from New Zealand or somethin’?
Steve’s inlaws? Nice Katie. Rather than sitting around a Th’giving day table with family, friends and enjoying the real memories being made, you are sitting around a table w/people who don’t give a flying fig about you, they are ‘employees’ and their extended family. How ‘thankful’ you must be for someone, anyone to fill those seats at the table! Do you ever feel ‘empty’ and alone? Cause you are ya know!
Tam ~ … meet her at the door with a shotgun?
That had to be one strange Thanksgiving dinner, Mother of the house, kids, paid body guard, his wife & kids and the inlaws (and don’t forget the caterers). I know lots of people invite friends & employees when they have no where else to go. But, I’ll bet Steve’s family originally planned on having dinner at THEIR home. … then you have everyone stay overnight? Guess Kate or TLC can’t buy other friends. Wonder where Jamie was.
casesearch.courts.state.md.us/inquiry/inquiryDetail.jis?caseId=321901V&loc=68&detailLoc=MCCI
Lots of updates on TLC vs. Jon from 12/1/09 to date…
Tam, I can’t pull that up. It just takes me to Ask.com…..that always happens to me when I try to pull up your links…wonder why?
Linda, it worked for me. Even without the http etc. Just do a search for ‘Maryland Judiciary Case Search’ and the link will come up. Click on the ‘disclaimer’ and then when ‘case search’ comes up just put in Gosselin Jon and click on the case #321901v and it’ll bring up the docket.
OT-did anyone see this cute as hell video on Showbiz Tonight last night?
manilow(dot)ning(dot)com/profiles/blogs/for-kitten-lovers-jazz-paws
Linda ~ the link worked for me. Just had to enter Jon’s name and list of all the hearings and motions came up.
#104 Tam
That was on my welcome screen yesterday for Yahoo…is that not the cutest thing you’ve ever seen?!!!
Hi Moon,
I just saw this thread. I hope that all went well with your surgery and that you’re feeling better. Best wishes for a speed recovery!
Hahaha, they talked about Jon and Kate on The Daily Show today. Jon Oliver asked the Swiss ambassador if he was on Team Jon or Kate. Jon Oliver went on about how he’s a scumbag and has to grow up
Tam,
Did I interpret the motions correctly in Jon’s case with TLC – that TLC was successful in getting the contract sealed? I believe it can be found under Docket #14.
#109steph
Tam,
Did I interpret the motions correctly in Jon’s case with TLC – that TLC was successful in getting the contract sealed? I believe it can be found under Docket #14.
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Looks like. TLC=Devious, sneaky bastards.
In other news, ROL has a video of Kate Majwhore. Don’t know what kind of shit she’s spewing from her piehole this time. Her voice annoys the living hell out of me that I can’t even click on video to watch.
CelloLady, Linda and Cynthia–Thank-you so much for your kind words of support. I didn’t take one bit of it as judgmental, I took it as impartial. You are all right. This has been very tough on my little family, and I have gently helped my husband back away a little. It’s very difficult, because my husband really wants to be there for his dad at the end, but it’s just impossible for us to have any accurate feeling about when that will be. Yesterday morning I told someone at work who had asked about my FIL, that he was alert, and in denial. He was talking about being able to eat regular meals “in a week or two”, when he is well. When I got home late in the evening, my husband told me that he had been trying to keep from us, that his dad had been totally non-responsive all day. They had not been able to wake him, etc. at any point. Today he is awake again, but a little confused, and sleepy.
As for respite care, it is very limited, and though it would work for most people, I am concerned that my MIL will be dissatisfied with the number of hours and my husband will try to fill the breach once more. They are connected with two different respite providers, and one of them will aid with a total of 45 hours per month, I believe. Not sure of the other organization, but it provides considerably less. The issue with my MIL is that she wants to go to work as much as possible, to fund her projects and escape. So whatever is provided will never be enough.
We have an appointment with our son’s teachers and counselor this coming week to determine what can be done to patch up the poor grades (Pretty much due to incomplete homework assignments). Wish us luck with this part of our issues.
Thanks again for your words of support.
Anna
111Anna
Good luck at your son’s school. Perhaps he too has been affected by all the upheaval within the family recently? Keep us posted!
#111 Anna
Thanks for responding to my post and glad you read it the way I intended. As I said in my post, I’ve been through a lot of what you’re experiencing – ill and dying parents, caregiving and dealing with the needs of a husband and young son.
Your statement, “Yesterday morning I told someone at work who had asked about my FIL, that he was alert, and in denial. He was talking about being able to eat regular meals “in a week or two”, when he is well. When I got home late in the evening, my husband told me that he had been trying to keep from us, that his dad had been totally non-responsive all day. They had not been able to wake him, etc. at any point. Today he is awake again, but a little confused, and sleepy.”
This really is end of life stuff. The denial is totally fear-driven. Dying is a scary process unless the individual is totally at peace with their own mortality. Accepting the inevitable is impossible for some.
From what you described of your FIL’s physical state, it sounds like the end will come soon.
Just be prepared to see your MIL either totally collapse, or become even more controlling and manic – and she’ll be expecting your husband to handle everything. Hope he has some siblings to help out.
Also, good luck with your son’s educational issues – a positive outcome is within reach!
Anna~
My thoughts and prayers are with you! Please accept our hugs and don’t forget to update us! We are here for you!